Dear James, Today is Tuesday, December 31, 2019. It has been 373 weeks, 3 days (7 years, 10 weeks, 3 days) since you left us. Not a day passes that you are not thought of. You are missed more than words can tell. The last few months have seemed empty. I look around and see you everywhere. A little push toy your dad made as an addition to the one we bought in Hannibal during the eclipse we traveled there for. A toy rocking horse a neighbor, Joe, made for you when you were born on a book shelf. We have parted with some of your belongings. Giving some to your friends and others to people we know. Even though 7 years have passed it is still too hard to part with you. I know we are promised a resurrection when we will one day be reunited. The emotional pain of you not being here sometimes becomes overwhelming. Your dad has been despondent. Last week Rachel stopped by for approximately 45 minutes. She came up to visit her family and Trey’s. Trey remained in Florida to take care of the animals and work. Tomorrow is the beginning of another calendar year without you with us. You were wanted before you were born and always loved. Hugs and kissed, Loved always, mother
Dear James, Today is Sunday, November 3, 2019. It has been 365 weeks, 1 day (7 years, 2 weeks, 1 day) since you left us. Seven years ago on this date was your service. It does not seem like you have been gone that long. The connection these pages have let me feel has changed slightly the past couple of weeks, there is a loss I cannot quite understand. I guess it could be that your dad’s last uncle has passed and we are now the older generation. I still have 2 aunts, Aunt Ann will be 103 in February and Aunt Evelyn will be 93 in December. Somehow I never thought about being the older generation. Next Sunday, your dad and I will be married 35 years. 32 years ago, we were looking with hope to the future. You were only 13 days old. I would give anything to trade places with you. Today during services, the question of time came up; a thousand years being equal to 1 day. 20 years would equal 1/2 hour. If that is so, you have been gone for less than 15 minutes. You are missed so much. I look forward to the day I see you again. In my mind you are forever young. Always loved and missed. Hugs and Kisses, mother
Dear James, Today is Sunday, October 27, 2019. It has been 364 weeks, 1 day (7 years, 1 week, 1 day) since you left us. Seven years ago on this date, the worst day of my life began. You had turned 25 on the 21st of October 2012, a few days prior to leaving us. I had pulled up your tribute page a few weeks ago to read some of the words that were recorded here. Then when pulled up again on October 16th, everything was gone except for the obituary. I spoke with the Jones-Wynn and they told me they were in the process of transitioning the records. On Thursday the 24th, your picture were posted and on Friday, the 25th, I saw part of the tributes on the new site. More were found the end of the day. I will write in more detail this coming week. I am grateful to be able to read your tribute wall. Last Sunday, October 20, 2019, we met with some of your friends at the cemetery for a balloon release for you then we went to Monterrey for dinner. Due to other obligations, some of the people who usually come were not able to this year. Those who were able to attend were, David Donis and Amber, Theresa and Nate Hoffman and their 6 month old daughter Eleanor, Jeremy and Dana, (newly engaged), Eric, Benito, his wife and 2 children, Jim, Daniel Glass, your dad and me. Your dad’s Uncle Joe passed October 24th. He would have turned 100 on January 4, 2020. Also, this past week Rick’s mother passed. James, you were our shining star. Your dad and I both miss you more than words can tell. Since August your dad has been attending services with me on Sunday morning. Today, they mentioned the resurrection to come and it brought tears to my eyes. I could not stop thinking of you and how much your are missed. You were wanted before you were born and loved more as each day passed after your birth. Always loved and missed, Hugs and Kisses, mother
Today is Saturday, April 27, 2019. It has been 338 weeks (6 years, 27 weeks) since you left us. Your dad and I went to the cemetery, Thursday, the 25th and left a potted lily plant. You were loved before you were born and are missed daily. Not a day goes by that we do not think or speak of you. Sometimes in our conversations, it is as if you are still here with us. We speak of you in the present instead of the past many times. Your dad and I also went to the cemetery on April 2nd and then again on April 4th to remove the ant hill that was by your grandmother’s marker.
Your dad has been using the penguin mug we bought you when we went to Sea World in April of 2000. It was the only spring break I did not take you to Texas. He started using the mug in December. We have also used the popcorn we had purchased when you were in cub scouts. We found 1/2 a package in a container and stated using it February 6th of this year.
I dreamed of you, Saturday, December 15, 2018, 319 weeks, (6years, 8 weeks) after you left us. In my dream you were swimming.
Several of your friends have had children since November. The news that Theresa and Nathan shared with us last October was that they were expecting a daughter this month.
Esther and Stephen had a daughter, November 16, 2018. They named her Elizabeth Diane Hurlock. She was born at 1:52pm, was 6 pounds – 12 ounces, and 20 inches long.
Matt and Jennifer had a daughter born December 19, 2018. Her name is Baylor, she was 7 pounds – 7 ounces, 20 inches and born around 3pm.
Mike and Faith Ann Speer had a daughter January 2019. They named her Lillith Anna Rose. She was 18 inches long and 6 pounds, (did not have the ounces).
Attended the baby shower for Theresa and Nathan on March 10th. Jeremy, Dana, and Deann were also there. Deann called me to let me know their daughter was born Friday, April 5th at 9:46pm. She weighed 7 pounds, 4 ounces and was 19 1/2 inches long. Deann said that Theresa drove herself to the hospital. They named their daughter Eleanor Liselotte Hoffman.
I called Deann earlier this week and she told me that Theresa’s grandfather had passed this past Sunday, April 21st. (continued below…)
(…continued from above) Your dad and I went to see Henry Hughes on November 28, 2018. He had been in Grace assisted living since July. He passed away Thursday, November 29, 2018. Betty is adjusting to life without him being with her. It is never an easy change. She did attend the Human Society Spay and Neuter fund raiser with me 2 weeks ago on April 13th. When we went to Henry’s visitation, there was a long line of people waiting to pay their respects. There is a sign at Deer Lick Park, where the fund raiser was held. It is for the ball field there and it is named for Henry and Sam Roberts.
On March 23, 2019 at approx. 1:45pm, at Thornton’s food mart, a girl who went to grade school with you at Eastside Elementary asked me how is your son? I told her you had died in a car accident. She was sorry to hear that. She said she remembered me coming to the school to volunteer and the field trips I went on with you.
James, I would give anything to hold you one more time. You gave the best hugs. If I have learned anything from you leaving us. It is to let people know how much they mean to you and to spend more time with them. We are not promised tomorrow. You were wanted before you were born and have been missed daily since you left.
Hugs and Kisses,
mother – April 27 at 11:02 PM
Today is Saturday, November 10, 2018. It has been 314 weeks, (6 years, 3 weeks) since you left us. Today your Dad and I have been married 34 years. Six years ago, your dad and I ate at Panda Express. We were still numb from your passing. I still have the toy panda they gave me.
Today I attended the baby shower for Matt and Jennifer. Their daughter is due on December 22nd, 4 days before Matt turns 30. Your friends are moving forward with their lives and meeting new milestones.
Your dad’s kidney function has improved over the past month and he is more hopeful now. I went to the cemetery today to remove the flowers we placed there on October 28th. The carnations still look like they did when we placed them and the day lilies were in much better condition than the roses. I brought them home. It is suppose to be below freezing by morning.
You have always been and always will be loved. You were my hope for the future. It still will come, only you will not be here with us. One day, at the resurrection, we will meet again. Until then, you will always be in my heart.
Hugs and Kisses,
mother – November 10, 2018 at 06:48 PM
Today is Saturday, November 3, 2018. It has been 313 weeks, (6 years, 2 weeks) since you left us. Six years ago on this day and date, we remembered your life. Your service was at 11am. I should have set the time for 1pm so that others could have made it. I was thinking that earlier would be better for most of the people who wanted to attend the service. I have thought about you a lot this past week and wish I could turn back time.
Trey spent part of Monday with us. He had to fly back to Florida on Tuesday. We drove down Banks Mill road and checked on the rose bush we planted. It is still alive and has survived several years now.
Theresa told me on Sunday that her mother said hello. I met her when Theresa married Nathan October of 2015. Daniel told me he had been by the cemetery earlier this year, in February, to talk to you.
Chris and Stacy had a son on October 30th. They named him Parker James Queen. He was born at 5:42am and weighed 9 pounds 3 ounces. He was 22 1/2 inches long. He was born on Wednesday.
There have been several marriages and births since you left us. Your friends are moving forward with their lives. Many have moved away. It is nice when we hear from them.
It is selfish on my part; however, I would give everything I have to see you again. You cared for many people and never put conditions on your friendship. Trey said you were a very caring person and too trusting. Being caring and trusting is a great asset. It means you do not just think of yourself. You think of others. I am so glad you were in my life for 25 years. I only wish it had been longer. Your dad and I were older parents and miss you each day. Until we meet again at the resurrection, know you have always been and always will be loved. You were wanted before you were born and loved always.
Hugs and Kisses,
mother – November 03, 2018 at 11:41 PM
Today is Sunday, October 28, 2018. It has been 312 weeks, 1 day (6 years, 1 week, 1 day) since you left us. Six years ago on this date we met at the funeral home to write your obituary and plan your service.
Today, six years later, we met with some of your friends at the cemetery for a remembrance and balloon release for you. We removed the artificial flowers I had placed during the summer and replaced them with fresh ones. Orange roses, yellow carnations, and lilac-rose day lilies.
Hector, David, Trey, Daniel and Jessica, Jeremy and Dana, Deann, Theresa and Nathan, James, Eric and Sally, Benito, Marissa and their children, your dad, and I. David and Hector had the new leather wrist bands for you. They say: James Marsden, friend, son, brother on them. They had one for your dad and me. Bryce Sparling and his family had planned to be there; however, were unable to attend at the last moment. Esther was unable to attend, she is expecting a daughter in a few weeks and was unable to travel. She helped with the selection of the new wristbands.
Daniel suggested that next year we move up meeting to a week earlier. I think everyone agreed that would be fine. After we left the cemetery we went to Monterrey for dinner. Benito and his family and Eric and Sally were unable to meet for dinner. Benito and his family had a long drive back to south Georgia. Trey flew in yesterday from Florida and will be spending most of tomorrow with us. He returns home on Tuesday. James’ wife, Deborah, joined us at Monterrey for dinner after she got off work. She and Theresa know each other. That was a pleasant surprise for both of them. Theresa and Nathan shared with us some good news. Chris and Stacy are still expecting their son, he was due this past Friday, October 26th.
Your dad and I had lunch with Paul on September 25th. He is doing ok and considering selling his home. He brought me orange roses and they lasted a little over 3 weeks.
You are still remembered by many of your friends. You are missed more than words can say. You were loved before you were born and always wanted. When I think of you, I often smile.
Hugs and Kisses,
mother – October 28, 2018 at 07:50 PM
Today is Saturday, October 27, 2018. It has been 312 weeks (6 years, 1 week) since you left us. Watched the clock today and thought of the last hours you were here. Six years ago Russell called to let us know of the accident. I called the hospital, the law enforcement offices, 911, and no one had any information to give us. After approximately
an hour, a deputy sheriff’s car pulled up with a chaplain and Nathan Mitchell, deputy coroner. They gave us the official notice of you leaving us. Nathan had been here before when we bought the new range top for the kitchen from Mitchell Appliance. He told us they had taken you to Hightower’s. We requested you be transferred to Jones-Wynn.
This was the worst day of my entire life. I could not breath for weeks after receiving this news. Within hours of receiving this news, Jeremy’s mother and sister came by. I am grateful they came.
I called one of the supervisors at work, as I was suppose to be there to work on a project with the Oakton, Virginia office and some of my co-workers to make changes to some government circuits.
Next, I made the necessary calls to family and friends. Today has been a day of reflection. Tuesday, the 23rd of this month, I used the wing-it card that was in your wallet. You had used it this past week 6 years ago and had a free order on it. They remember you and let me keep the card.
Your dad checked today to see when the next time the dates will match up to what they were in October of 2012. In 2029, 11 years from now, they will match up. Then again in 2040, another 11 years will have passed.
You were wanted before you were born and are missed. You were suppose to outlive us. That is the natural order. Tomorrow, we will meet with some of your friends.
Hugs and Kisses,
mother – October 27, 2018 at 09:24 PM
Today is Friday, October 26, 2018. It has been 311 weeks 6 days (5 years, 52 weeks, 6 days; 6 years, 6 days), since you left you left us. Six years ago, Friday, October 26, 2012 was the last time I heard your voice. I did not get home from work until 1am, Friday morning the 26th. When you left for work, I was still in bed and heard you open the kitchen door to leave. You were closing the door as I said goodbye and I do not know if you heard me.
Prior to leaving work a few minutes after 10pm on Friday the 26th, we spoke for the last time. I told you we would talk tomorrow. It never came for you. In a few hours you would take your last breath.
I miss you so much. I regret erasing the last message you left on the answering machine telling your dad you were taking William home.
Benito stopped by yesterday afternoon and visited for a couple of hours. We will see him this coming Sunday along with some of your other friends. He lives outside of Albany now. He has a son and a daughter.
Know that you were always loved. Tears still come when I think of how much I wish you were still here with us. You are in my prayers. I pray that at the resurrection, I will be able to see you and tell you how much you have always been loved and to just hold you once more. No one gives hugs like you.
Benito gave me a hug when he came in yesterday and as he left. It made me remember how much your hugs meant to me.
Sometimes, it seems as if I can not move forward. Your room is pretty much as you left it. I look forward to the day I can see you again. November the 10th, your dad’s and my 34th wedding anniversary, I’ll be attending a baby shower for Matt and Jennifer Dempsey. They are expecting a daughter in December. Four weeks before you left us, we attended their wedding. The last picture we have of you was taken at their wedding. The picture of you and your dad means a lot to him.
Hugs and Kisses,
mother – October 26, 2018 at 09:24 PM
Today is Sunday, October 21, 2018. It has been 311 weeks, 1 day (5 years, 52 weeks, 1 day) since you left us. This morning you would have turned 31. Not a day goes by that I do not think of you. Each night and morning I pray that I will see you in the resurrection and can tell you how much you were and still are loved. Your dad misses you and still feels the pain of the loss of you.
So much has happened since last I wrote. Chase Cole, who is a month younger than you was married on April 13th. His mother and I worked together before your dad and I married in 1984. We learned in May that Matthew and Jennifer will become parents in late December.
On June 6th, Jim told Charles he had been to the cemetery on either the 4th or 5th and that there were 3 to 4 rabbits near your marker. On June 12th, went to the cemetery and worked on the area. Your dad and I went back on the14th.
Your uncle went to the ER on June 17th. He had 2 additional stents put in. They were unable to do a 3rd one. On the 19th of June, David told us that Esther is expecting a baby November/December. On the 23rd of June, we learned she and her husband are expecting a girl. On June 28th, we learned Chris and Stacy are expecting a son in October. Henry has been moved to an assisted living facility. This has been a difficult time for Betty. A couple of weeks ago when I visited he was doing ok. Your dad and went and saw him this past Tuesday and he was dozing. I found out that I have osteoporosis. Never expected that.
I dreamed of both you and Lucky back in July. Your dad and I had lunch with both David and Hector Donis in early July and with Trey later in the month. Trey was up for a few days to visit his family. Calista’s dog, Shiloh passed on July 16th. (continued below…)
(…continued from above) The week of August 5th the begonia you gave me May of 2011 began to fail and we were unable to save it. I feel as if another part of you has left my life. We spoke with Jeremy on the 31st, he told us that Chris’s son is due the end of October. We learned Matthew and Jennifer are expecting a daughter.
September 1st, I attended a baby shower for Esther. I saw Eric, Jennifer, and David there. On the 6th was almost in 2 accidents. A van ran a red light after it had turned red. Then at the post office, a woman in a suv came in the wrong way.
Misty Couch’s sister passed on the 9th. Saw the obituary in the paper and took her a card at the visitation on the 15th. When you left us, she gave a card that I cherish. It meant a lot to me. Trey called us the evening of the 15th. On the 25th, I dreamed of watching a video of you when you were younger and you had been swimming. Your dad and I had lunch with Paul at Longhorn’s later that day. Paul gave me orange roses and they lasted nearly 3 weeks.
Today, I attended the wedding of Kathryn and Travis. Kathryn’s mother, Connie, worked with me at AT&T.
Next Sunday, we are to meet with your friends for a remembrance of you and then dinner at Monterrey’s.
It is hard to believe that Saturday will be 6 years since you left. 2012 was a leap year. this year is not. However, every day since March 1st has fallen on the same day of the week as was in 2012. As each day passes, I try to remember what happened on that date 6 years ago.
Six years ago today we ate at Longhorn’s, your dad, Jeremy and me. You had asked Trey to join us. He had plans to see Rachel. You told him she could come too. He declined, never knowing it would be the last time we went out to eat. In a few hours, it will be 6 years since you woke up and I took you to the ER. I took a vacation day and stayed home with you. I am so glad I took the day off to be with you.
Hugs and Kisses,
mother – October 21, 2018 at 11:01 PM
Today is Sunday, February 25, 2018. It has been 277 weeks, 1 day (5 years, 18 weeks, 1 day) since you left us. Not a day passes that I do not think of you. You still appear in my dreams; however, I no longer feel compelled to remember the details by writing what I remember of them each time. I know you will always live on in my heart and mind. You are no longer here physically and no one can ever replace the special person you are.
Six years ago we ate dinner as a family. Five years ago your dad, some friends and I gathered at the cemetery for the placing of your marker at your final resting place. Yesterday, the sun shone for the first time this week. Today, it has been raining and overcast.
Trey came by on Thursday, February 1st. It was a last minute trip up here for him. We had dinner with him and his brother-in-law (Steve) at Carrabba’s. Last Sunday, Logan’s closed for the last time. I remember the first time we ate there. You were young then and wanted to throw the peanut shells on the table like most of the other people were doing. I would not let you do it that time; however, later you did. After you passed, they started putting empty containers on the tables for the shells.
Jeremy’s mother is doing well and there could be wedding bells for her in the future. She and Jessica were the first people who came by the house the day you passed. I will never forget her kindness and wish her much happiness in the years to come.
I miss you so much and know that we are promised a resurrection of both the righteous and the unrighteous. Until that time, I only have memories, pictures, and dreams of you. Your voice is recorded on cassette tapes and videos. We bought a used camcorder to play the videos on. I had wanted to buy a player, and wish had, after you passed. Our camcorder had stopped working several years ago and your dad found a used one on e-bay. It hurts him to watch the videos and we have not played them since I retired. I need to learn how to connect the camcorder so that I can watch some of the videos when your dad begins walking again.
You were loved before you were born. We had planned for you to outlive us. Now that will never be.
Hugs and kisses,
mother – February 25, 2018 at 09:44 PM
Today is Saturday, December 30, 2017. It has been 269 weeks, (5 years, 10 weeks) since you left us. When last wrote in October, it was 259 weeks, not 257.
Another year is drawing to a close without you in our life. Your dad misses you so much. He has little joy in life and many times feels forgotten. He has not been walking in a while. He had to jump over a small depression due to a car coming too close to the side of the road and injured his heel. It is slow in healing.
David Donis called us October 31, 2017, after he returned from Esther’s wedding, to see if we could meet them for a balloon release on Sunday, November 5, 2017. Esther and her husband would be in town that weekend attending another wedding.
Eric and Jeremy attended Jon Hagan’s wedding in Florida on October 21st. Esther was married in Rhode Island on October 28th. (Eric attended that wedding), then there was a 3rd wedding on November 4th.
There were several people who wanted to attend the balloon release; however, due to the short notice, they could not. Daniel sent his regrets and several others had not received notification.
The people who came this year for the balloon release and to share a meal were, Jeremy and Dana, Deann, David, Hector, Esther and Steve, Eric and Sally (she was Esther’s Maid of Honor), James (who you worked with), Alecia, Victor, Russell, and Theresa. Chris Queen and his family were unable to come, as they left to move to Michigan that weekend. Trey and Rachel came up a couple of weeks later from Florida for his mother’s wedding and to visit with Rachel’s family. We met them for lunch at Monterrey’s before they returned to Florida.
We had snowfall on December 8th and 9th. Accumulation here was 10 inches plus. Paulding County had over 14 inches. Late autumn snowfall. We lost power Friday night, the 8th, from 8:15pm to 9:45pm, then again Saturday, the 9th, from 8:41am until 6:23pm. Chris Queen was in town to finish up his work for his employer and stopped by to check on us on Saturday, December 9th. (continued below…)
(…continued from above) Deann came by for a short visit on December 15th and we ate at Monterrey’s. Jeremy and Dana were scheduled to return from their cruise on Saturday, the 16th. They had a flight to go to Orlando to meet the cruise ship, the flight was cancelled due to the snow. The others who were on the same cruise had driven down and were able to leave as scheduled. Jon Hagan, his wife, Eric and other friends and family. Jeremy and Dana were able to catch an international flight and meet up with the cruise ship in port.
Trey called us this past Monday, he and Rachel were returning home from Cory’s where they had spent the day.
Jennifer and Matthew went on a cruise for their 5th year anniversary.
Jesse Reed, who I worked with, passed away. I received a call this morning telling me she had passed last night. She is a little over 2 weeks older than your dad. She was born August 23, 1948 and your dad was born September 5, 1948.
I saw Paul briefly today at ACE Hardware. He is going to spend a week in West Virginia visiting friends.
We are not promised any time past the present moment. If I had known that you would leave when you did, I would have been at home with you for weeks. All my free time would have been spent with you. Never to see your face or hear your voice again hurts and leaves an ache in my heart. I will always remember you standing up for me.
In just a little over 26 hours, this year will have ended and a new year will begin. You are loved and missed more than words can tell.
hugs and kisses,
mother – December 30, 2017 at 11:06 PM
I was thinking of you and your sweet son, James. James gave you reasons to smile and reasons to laugh, but most of all, he gave you memories that you will never forget!
~ Helen J. Bowden
Helen Bowden – November 01, 2017 at 09:18 PM
Continuation of post 3 minutes ago.
David and Hector stopped by for a short visit on Wednesday, October 25th. They will be attending their sister’s wedding tomorrow. They told us there is another wedding scheduled next weekend. 3 weekends in a row are weddings.
They said that Esther will be in Douglasville in November and would like to have a small get together then. With all the weddings, this month did not have an available date that people could attend.
Theresa sent me an e-mail last Saturday to let us know she was thinking of you and us.
Trey will also be in town in November, his mother is getting married.
Did hear that Russell is now engaged. Your friends are moving forward to the next chapter of their lives.
Jeremy called earlier this evening. He had been in the wedding party for Jonathan last Saturday. Eric was also there. He told us that Eric had flown to Rhode Island yesterday to attend Esther’s wedding, and they have another wedding to attend next weekend.
Jeremy said that he would like to have dinner with your Dad and me next weekend. You have been in his thoughts.
hugs and kisses,
mother – October 27, 2017 at 10:24 PM
Today is Friday, October 27, 2017. It has been 257 weeks, 6 days (4 years, 52 weeks, 6 days / 5 years, 6 days) since you left us. 5 years ago you were lost to us, the worst day of my life. Today is the 5th anniversary since you passed.
Your Dad and I miss you each day. You were loved before you were born and loved more as each day passed.
This past Saturday, October 21, 2017 you would have turned 30. I wrote to you that evening; however, the post vanished, with only the added comments remaining attached to a prior post earlier in the year.
Trey stopped by Friday, April 21st and brought me an orchid. He flew in to visit his grandmother and family. He made arrangements for Rachel and him to stay in Dunlap, Tennessee for the upcoming eclipse in August.
Your granddad passed on June 8th. Your Dad and I left for Texas on June 9th. Trey left us a message on our answering machine on June 10th. His grandmother had passed and he was coming to Georgia for her services.
We went I-10 to Texas so that your Dad could meet Aunt Ann, who had turned 100 in February. She lives in Sour Lake, north of Beaumont. Your dad and I will be married 33 years next month, he had never met Aunt Ann. It was only you and I who made the trips to Texas.
In July, I received a wedding invitation for Esther Donis. She is getting married tomorrow in Rhode Island. On July 25th her mother called to let me know about the bridal shower on July 29th. Good thing she called as the invitation came Monday after the shower.
Your Dad, Trey, Rachel, and I travelled to Dunlap, Tennessee on August 20th for the eclipse. We had dinner with Jeff, Melissa, and their 2 sons, Patrick and Bradley. The next morning, Monday, August 21st, we headed to Cumberland Upper Regional Airport in Sparta, Tennessee (east of Nashville) to view the eclipse. You would have enjoyed the location as prior to the eclipsed we watched many planes and jets land. We were set up yards from the runway. (Your dad had special permission to set up close to the runway). Many people came by and looked through the telescope. When the eclipse was over we watched the planes and jets depart. (continued below…)
(…continued from above) One of the people we met and sent pictures to, provided a link to what he posted on you-tube. It was a time-release of the airstrip and your dad and I were caught on camera. We met several people that we e-mailed pictures to and one of the people gave us a copy of his book.
After the eclipse, Trey and Rachel headed to Nashville to visit a friend of yours from high school. Your dad and I stopped in Sparta for dinner before heading back to Georgia.
George Yates, a friend of your dad’s that he has known for 53 years, died in a house fire in North Carolina. His brother, James who lives up the street from us called us Tuesday morning, September 19th to let us know. George and your dad spoke a couple of times since the eclipse as we sent him some of the pictures your dad took.
Delores Durden, a friend I met in 1979 passed away October 6th and her visitation was Thursday, October 12 at Jones-Wynn. The last time you saw her was years ago at the mall. We had gone into the game store (no longer in existence) to order a board game and saw her on a bench as we were leaving.
This past Saturday, your birthday, a friend of yours, Jonathan Hagan married in Florida. Jeremy and Eric were there. Tomorrow, October 28th, Esther will be getting married and Eric flew to Rhode Island for her wedding. There is also a wedding next weekend.
Jeremy’s mother, Deann, my sister, your Aunt Calista, and my friend, Gayle all called October 21st on your birthday to let us know we are in their thoughts.
David Donis called Wednesday, the 25th and asked if your dad and I would be home in the evening. He and Hector dropped by at 6:30 and brought us a gift basket and card from them and Esther. They had a flight to Rhode Island at 9pm and wanted to see us before they left.
mother – October 27, 2017 at 10:08 PM
Today is Monday, October 23, 2017. Your uncle turns 58 today. Saturday I wrote on this page and nothing was retained except what wrote in the comment section of other things had thought to put in and did not. They appear on the last time wrote which was March 9, 2017.
Saturday had been 257 weeks (4 years, 52 weeks since you left) You would have turned 30. Hopefully that post will appear. Do not know why it did not. Have to get off the computer for now, will write later.
hugs and kisses,
mother – October 23, 2017 at 11:52 AM
The original post from Saturday, October 21, 2017 did appear when pulled back up for added comment like doing here. Perhaps there is a glitch in the system.
mother – October 23, 2017 at 12:14 PM
Today is Thursday, March 9, 2017. It has been 226 weeks, 5 days (4 years, 19 weeks, 5 days) since you left. You are missed and always loved. Lucky (munga) would have turned 17 last week. He is buried in the backyard.
Jeremy’s mother has moved and now lives in Carrolton on 4 acres of land. She has some farm animals and is enjoying the peace and quiet. Jessica was in an accident last week. She swerved to miss a deer and the car rolled 4 times. Deann says she is ok.
Paul took off this week as one of his goats is going to give birth. He is 84 and still
works at Ace Hardware. We saw him last week when we were there.
On Tuesday, January 11, 2017, I saw Mary Otwell, your kindergarten teacher at Taco Bell. She still remembers you and knew you had passed. She expressed her condolences to us. She says she thinks of you as she uses the backscratcher we brought back from Hannibal, Missouri when we went to see the eclipse on May 10, 1994.
We had taken you out of school for that event and brought back backscratchers and pencils for all your classmates, teacher and teacher’s assistant. She told me that Charles and I were good parents. I needed to hear that.
Hugs and kisses,
mother – March 09, 2017 at 10:52 AM
Gayle who I worked with called me today to let me know she is thinking of us on what would have been your 30th birthday. Your Aunt Calista called this evening. Jeremy’s mother, Deann called this evening. You are thought of often. Deann mentioned the time she served you antelope and how you were enjoying it until she told you what you were eating and suddenly you were full. I wish I could have been there to see your response. When your dad and I returned from Texas in June, we came back I-20. We also went to Savannah in April for 2 days and your dad caught whooping cough.
mother – October 21, 2017 at 10:31 PM
Bashi, your dad and I ate at your favorite steakhouse, Longhorn’s, last night. First time this year.
mother – October 21, 2017 at 10:44 PM
Today is Saturday, February 25, 2017. It has been 225 weeks (4 years, 18 weeks) since you left. On this date 4 years ago we placed your marker at the cemetery. It is hard to believe it has been 4 years. You are missed more than words can ever express. Always loved, always young.
This year has started out with sadness. Aunt Evelyn called January 4, 2017 at 5:31pm to let me know Aunt Johnnie had passed. Aunt Evelyn had been in Tennessee and went to check on Aunt Johnnie and found her deceased. She had spoke with her the day before. The last time Aunt Johnnie called me was December 23, 2016 at 1:30pm. Aunt Evelyn is taking care of Aunt Johnnie’s 2 dogs as they have been around her for over 7 years.
I met 2 of Aunt Johnnie’s grandsons, CJ and Daniel, when they came out to make the arrangements for her. She was buried in Mississippi, close to your grandmother. Aunt Johnnie was mother’s youngest sister. Your dad accompanied me to Mississippi for the funeral. It was a small graveside service.
Daniel’s and Kerri’s mother passed on January 31, 2017, she was 54. They have lost both parents and are only in their 20’s. Many of your friends attended her memorial service on February 12, 2017. It was hard for your dad to attend the memorial service, as it brought back memories of you. However, he wanted to show his support for Daniel and Kerri.
Ken’s son, John, passed on February 5, 2017, he was 45. Your dad and Ken talked about how it feels to loose a son. We went to the visitation on February 12th and the funeral was on February 13, 2017.
Theresa met me for lunch at Carrabba’s in January. She surprised me and treated. We had an enjoyable meal and visit. She looks well. Last year she had some health problems and is still recovering.
Aunt Ann, turned 100 on February 5th. My brother e-mailed some pictures. She does not look her age and could pass for her 60’s, I think the last time you saw her was in 2007.
You have recently been in my dreams, these I have not written down. It comforts me to dream of you; however, when I awake, the reality sets in. On those days, I try to fall back to sleep so you can be with me.
One day there will be a resurrection; until then, you are always loved and missed.
Hugs and kisses,
mother – February 25, 2017 at 11:30 PM
Today is Sunday, January 1, 2017. It has been 217 weeks, 1 day (4 years, 10 weeks, 1 day) since you left. This is the 5th start of a new year beginning without you. This past year has been harder to bear since the 1st year you were gone.
We lost Lucky (munga) Tuesday, June 14th of 2016, your dad was in an auto accident Monday, August 22, of 2016, Tuesday, October 4th, 2016 we nearly lost your uncle to a massive heart attack. So many others this past year. Too many losses.
Lucky was born March 3, 2000 per the original vet records who gave him his original vaccinations, when he retired, the new vet had put on his records March 4, 2000. we had him since the age of 6 weeks. You were there the day he was born and Charlie brought him up to you in April from 3 doors down where they lived.
This fall has been harder on your dad, I believe in addition to your loss, his accident this year, loosing Lucky (munga), his sadness has increased.
Your friends have reached out to us. In November, Hector called and invited us to have dinner at his parents home with his sister, brothers, grandfather and his sister’s boyfriend. We gave Esther the necklace you purchased and believe you would approve. It had been in your room in the box and bag you brought it home in. We gave Hector’s mother the thumb drive that was in your room that shows Hector playing the guitar and singing. On December 23rd, Matt and Jennifer dropped in for about a half hour on their way home from visiting Matt’s parents and grandmother. Trey and Rachel were up in December and we met them and Rachel’s brother, Steve, at Fabiano’s. We were also invited to have dinner with Rachel’s family. This year we needed these visits, to be around joyful people.
This fall I have missed you so much. Tears now come too easily. You left us way too soon, you were with us for 25 years. We have many years ahead of us without you to share them with.
You were wanted before you were born and always loved. Each day you were with us was a gift I will always treasure.
Hugs and Kisses,
mother – January 01, 2017 at 11:10 PM
Today is Monday morning, January 2, 2017, this is a postscript to yesterday’s posting above.
Your friend Jennifer sent us a short video in October with you in it sitting at a table. Jeremy was singing. She had a few other pictures of you she sent us. In November and December she sent some pictures of her 2 sons who were born after you passed, with a penguin that had once belonged to you. Her oldest is 3 and was born in December and the youngest turned 1 on the 22nd of October, the day after you were born.
I drove by the accident sight on Wednesday, December 23, 2016, last week to check on the rose bush that your dad and Trey planted in August 2014. It is still green and growing.
We have been in a drought status and wanted to check to see how the rose bush was doing.
hugs and kisses,
mother – January 02, 2017 at 09:18 AM
Today is Thursday, October 27, 2016. It has been 207 weeks, 5 days (4 years, 5 days) since you left. Today is the 4 year anniversary of the accident that took you from us far too soon.
Your friends gathered together this past Sunday, October 23rd, in remembrance of you, as they have each year since you left. William and his family attended this year. There were over 30 people who came.
We placed live roses from your memory garden in the vase on the family marker for you. The balloons were blue and orange. Your dad had brought blue and orange glow sticks. Some people placed them around their neck on the string that came with them. I brought mine home.
Today, Jennifer sent me a video of you from 2011, it is about 30 seconds long. I am glad she sent it. She asked me for my e-mail address and also showed me a picture of her child with a penguin. It was unexpected and much needed. I have it saved to the computer.
After the balloon release we went to Monterrey’s. Jim from where you worked always dresses up to show respect for you. You were cared about more than you ever knew.
Trey and Rachel had flown up from Florida on the 22nd. Russell is dating and we met his girlfriend. Esther is also dating and we met her boyfriend, he works with Hector. David is still at Southwire. Jarod Is still down to earth and reliable. Theresa and Nathan celebrated there 1st anniversary earlier this month. Chris and Stacy, Trey and Rachel also had 1st year anniversaries this summer. Jeremy is seeing Dana, who you worked with at Chick-Fil-A when you were in High School. Benito looks well and now has a son and daughter. Jeremy’s mother took some pictures and sent them to me.
It would be better if you were here and I could talk with you and let you know how much you have always been loved. That is not to be for now. One day I will see you again. The hope of the resurrection promises this. Your dad was 39 when you were born and I was 33. Your grandmother Marsden waited for years for a grandchild to come into her life. Now our remaining years are a time of reflection on what might have been and a hope for the resurrection when we will be together once more.
This year it is just your dad and me, Lucky (Munga) passed earlier this year. He is buried near your memory garden with his own marker.
Hugs and Kisses,
mother – October 27, 2016 at 08:55 PM
Thomas, Daniel and his girlfriend, Keri, Brent, Eric, Alecia, Jennifer, and many others all came and looked well. Your friends come to remember you and for some to reconnect with each other. It is good to see people, your friends, come together to joyfully remember you. You lived and touched others.
mother – October 27, 2016 at 09:12 PM
Today is Friday, October 21, 2016. It has been 206 weeks, 6 days (3 years, 51 weeks, 6 days) since you left
Today, you would have turned 29. You are missed so much. Some of your friends are going to gather together on Sunday to do a balloon release for you. Trey and Rachel are flying in from Florida tomorrow morning.
Your dad is improving; however, he occasionally feels a little off balance (he recently told me this). He feels this above his right eye. His head was split open on the right side and he suffered a concussion as a result of the auto accident.
On Tuesday, October 5th, your uncle Buster (James) suffered a massive heart attack and was clinically dead. They were able to bring him back and performed surgery on
him prior to 5am central time in Texas. I am so grateful he was at your aunt Calista’s home. He woke her up at 3:30am and she took him to the emergency room. He never
would have made it to the ER in Arlington, which is a 2 hour drive. Calista called us at 6:02am to let us know.
They did a second operation on him later in the day. He is still in pain and weak. My immediate family consists of your dad, my sister, Calista; brother, James (Buster), and my dad.
James, on the mornings that you are in my dreams, I do not want to get up. I want to keep you with me as long as possible. One day, we will see each other again, until then,
hugs and kisses.
mother – October 21, 2016 at 09:45 PM
Today is Saturday, September 10, 2016. It has been 201 weeks ( 3 years, 46 weeks) since you left.
You are missed each day you are not here with us. We nearly lost your Dad on
Monday, August 22nd. I had arrived at my sister’s, your Aunt Calista, in Texas on
Sunday the 21st at 5:30pm central time.
On Monday, the 22nd, Calista and I were out and she was trying on clothes. It was around 2pm central, 3pm eastern. Since was waiting for her, decided to call Jeremy to
let him know your Dad would be by himself until I returned from Texas to Georgia.
Your Dad had a Doctor’s appointment at 2:15 that day. Around 5:30pm central, had not
heard from him and went outside to call to see what the doctor had said. As soon as
was outside, the phone began to ring. It was Jeremy’s mother. At first I thought something had happened to Jeremy; however, it was your dad, he had been in a serious automobile accident and was sent by life flight to Grady in Atlanta.
Jeremy’s mother told me that Betty and Henry had called Chris’ mother to see if he had a number to reach me by, Chris called Jeremy and Jeremy still had my cell number on his phone from earlier in the day. The accident happened sometime around 3:30pm eastern time. He had been t-boned by a Toyota mini-van.
Jim, who lives up the street from us happened on the accident right after it happened.
He spoke with the lady who hit your dad and she told him that she saw the light change to yellow and sped up to beat it.
He told the police that he was going to advise me of the accident. He did not know I was in Texas. When he saw the van gone, he talked with Betty and Henry. Besides calling Lisa (Chris’s mother), Betty called her sister to see if she knew anyone in my congregation that might have a number for me. The only number they had for me is the home number, as your dad is my only contact listed for emergencies. Also, my cell phone doesn’t work in my sister’s home as she is near a dead zone and has a metal roof. (continued below…)
(…continued from above) After talking with Jeremy’s mother, I called Betty and she told me they did not know your dad’s condition, 2 of the elders from my congregation and Juanita was there. The elders told me they were going to go to Grady to see how your dad is doing. After talking to them, I called Jim and Diane (different Jim). They knew about the accident before I did.
Jeremy had posted it on facebook and Matthew had seen it and called his parents to let them know. They told me they would be going up to the hospital to check on your dad. Jeremy and Chris had gone to the hospital and I was able to speak with both of them up there. Chris told me the worst injury was to Charles’ head. I was able to speak with your Dad briefly and told him would be leaving in the morning to come home.
Your dad had a massive head injury that opened approx. 2 inches, a fractured rib, thumb injury, broke nose, cuts on his legs, knees, arms and toe. The impact was so forceful, the entire passenger side is against the driver side of the car. The mirror is missing, the roof caved in, the gear shift bent toward the passenger side, this is probably what fractured his rib. Was told it took 30 minutes to get him out of the car. He had his seat belt on and was told that probably saved his life.
Did not sleep well that night and after breakfast with my sister, dad, and brother, left to come back on Tuesday, the 23rd. Got home Wednesday the 24th at 3:30pm eastern. Pulled in a couple of minutes before Jim D. and your dad. His eyes were all purple and he did not look good.
On way back was on phone with Douglasville police department to see if could find the keys to the car and our home. They transferred me to the 911 center and they made several calls. Had to keep pulling off the road to take the calls which delayed my trip getting back a little. The keys were finally located at the Gamil building and we picked them up shortly before 5pm.
mother – September 10, 2016 at 09:14 PM
I called Trey to let him know of the accident, he said would fly up if needed him to. Told him no need for him to fly up as Chris, Jeremy, Jim and Diane were all checking on your dad and the 2 elders from my congregation had been to see him.
Your Dad’s memory is still fuzzy concerning the accident. He does not remember talking with Trey’s mother, Sharon.
He was in and out of consciousness. Jim C. who was at the accident site said your dad talked to him and the next minute did not know who he was.
We go Monday, September 12th to get the staples and remaining stitches removed from your dad’s head and forehead. Your dad had no idea about how many people care about him.
Trey and Rachel drove up from Florida on Friday, September 2nd. We had dinner with them, Trey’s mother, sister, and grandmother at Hudson’s. Trey stopped by on Sunday, the 4th before leaving to go back to Florida. (continued below…)
(…continued from above) Chris and his wife came by on Saturday, the 3rd and we went to Monterrey’s. Finally saw their wedding video from last year. You would have enjoyed their wedding. They looked like they had a good time.
The detective on the case came by at 9:15am on Sunday, the 28th, your dad was asleep and got up. I was disappointed in the official report, as the detective never spoke with Jim C. who talked with the woman who hit your dad to get his statement on what she said to him. Also, he put the car is drivable and it is not. In my opinion, the report needs to be corrected on the car and to add Jim’s statement. In addition, there is a slight difference in what your dad stated about the light. Your dad said the green arrow was already gone and he had the green light to turn on when it was clear. He waited for the cars in the opposite left turn lane to clear before he began his turn and stated the lanes were clear when he began his turn. He had cleared 2 of the 3 lanes before he was hit.
She provided a “written”, not verbal statement stating that your dad suddenly pulled in front of her and she tried to stop. This does not agree with what she told Jim C. who volunteered this information to us. (she said to him she saw the light change to yellow and sped up to beat it.) That is not in her statement.
Her statement about trying to stop does not agree with what can be seen at the accident site. There are “no” skid marks from her van indicating that she hit the brakes to stop. The force of the impact on our 33 year old car that is made of heavier metal than her 2002 mini-van indicates no braking was done.
The only skid marks are from our car being pushed sideways. Your dad wanted to know if the car could be fixed. It cannot. It was the car we brought you home from the hospital in, the car, you learned to drive in. The car we made trips to the vet in for Tiffany, Mickey, and Lucky (munga).
It is another link to you that is gone.
James, your dad did not want me to go to Texas, he told me before I left he had a bad feeling that he would not see me again. When I made it safely there, he sounded much relieved.
I am grateful to your friends for stepping in and being here for him when I could not.
You were wanted before you were born and loved always.
Hugs and kisses,
mother – September 10, 2016 at 09:38 PM
Your Dad does not remember much about the accident and feels frustrated because he does not remember being hit or what happened after. He does not remember talking to people at the hospital and does not remember seeing Jim C. at the accident site and wanting him to go with him.
mother – September 10, 2016 at 09:48 PM
Today is Saturday, July 9, 2016. It has been 192 weeks (3 years, 37 weeks) since you left.
You are missed as much today as the day you left. I dreamed of you on Wednesday, July 6, 2016, of when you were a toddler. I did not want to get up. It felt nice for you to put your arms out to me to pick you up and place you on the counter to wash your face.
So much has happened since last wrote in April. Ken’s wife, Karen, passed on June 5th and the funeral was on the 10th. She had been in the hospital for approximately 1 month.
On May 13th (Friday), found a tick on the left inside thigh above the knee, was changing clothes before we were to meet Jim and Diane at Monterrey’s. We saw Benito and his family there as we were leaving. His daughter was born 03-24-16.
Do not know if it was from the tick bite or not, but on Friday, 05-20-16 went to bed at 2:22 in the afternoon had chills and aches. The site is still red and it has been 2 months since was bit. However, they are members of the spider family and it has always taken me a long time to get over a spider bite.
Your Dad had a doctor’s appointment on June 14th and we left Lucky outside in case he needed to use the restroom while we were gone. We were gone for 2 hours and 15 minutes. When we got back Lucky cried out and your Dad went out to bring him in. He said he was in the small depression by the Japanese maple Chris and his family gave us when you left. Lucky needed help in getting up. He had been loosing weight. We called the vet and Dr. Lukert called us back at 1:03pm. Your Dad held Lucky until we had to leave around 4:15pm. Lucky passed quietly with your Dad and I with him at 5:10pm. When they weighed him, he was down to 34 pounds. We think he had cancer. The last week he did not go outside much.
Chris was going to come and help your Dad dig Lucky’s grave; however; due to circumstances he was unable to control he was not able to assist and called Jeremy.
Jeremy helped dig Lucky’s grave. He is placed on a medium blue blanket with his tan blanket covering him. Your dad placed one of the peace roses with him. His grave was covered by 7:30pm. (continued below…)
(…continued from above) It is very lonely with Lucky gone. We lost you and then Lucky. He lived to be 16 years, 3 and 1/2 months.
We ordered a marker similar to what we have in your memory garden from Jones-Wynn. It has a picture your dad took of him in 2014 engraved on it. It says James’s (Bashi’s) faithful dog and his dates on it. Your Dad used Mungadila as the name on the marker, as that is the name the two of you called him the most. His nickname, after you had named him Lucky when we got him.
Lucky’s marker was placed Thursday, June 30th.
The class of 2006 remembered you at their reunion this year. We received a call on June 26th from Clarence Dobbs. Did not recognize the name and called the number back a couple of days later. He told us that you were in his class and that he talked of you at the reunion. You and 2 other members of the class, Brandon George and Marques Glover were remembered at the reunion. he told me they had a shirt for us and he would be in town this week as he now lives in Maryland.
He called us Thursday, July 7th. He, his brother and a friend of his came over and gave us the class reunion shirt they had for us. He is now in the Navy and stationed at Annapolis. Your Dad and I showed him your memory garden in the backyard. We also showed them Lucky’s memory area.
Your Dad and I saw Thomas at Fabiano’s late this afternoon and told him of Lucky.
Hugs and kisses
mother – July 09, 2016 at 09:47 PM
Sunday, July 10th, update to above, Dr. Lukert called us back at 12:44pm, it was a different call at 1:03 on June 14th. Your Aunt Calista called us at 3:28 that day to see how Lucky was doing, your Uncle James (Buster) had told her he was having some problems. Your dad was rocking Lucky (Munga) in the rocking chair when she called and continued to hold him until we left to see Dr. Lukert. We stayed with Lucky the entire time we were at the vets and your Dad would not let anyone carry him out to the car.
You and Lucky (Munga) are loved and missed.
Hugs and kisses,
mother – July 10, 2016 at 07:06 PM
Your Dad carried him to the car and placed him on the medium blue blanket we had purchased just prior to you leaving us. When we returned home, your dad placed Lucky and the blanket on the screened in back porch. It looked like he was sleeping.
mother – July 10, 2016 at 07:11 PM
Today is Wednesday, April 27, 2016. It has been 182 weeks, 4 days (3 years, 26 weeks, 5 days) since you left. Three and a half years since October 27, 2012.
You are missed so much. The peace rose bush we planted in your memory garden has taken off, there are between 75 and 100 blooms on it. We have never seen a rose bush with so many blooms at one time. Plan to drive by the accident site this week to check on the rose bush we planted there in 2014. The other rose bush we bought at the same time is in a container and has flowers; however, nothing close to the one in your memory garden.
Chris and Jeremy came by Saturday, April 23rd to help your dad with the antenna and to remove the plastic bags from the vent twirlers on the roof. Jeremy came by this evening after work to help your dad change the blade on the lawn mower.
Saw Russell, Saturday, March 26th. He had returned to Douglasville earlier in the week. His plans to move to California from Oklahoma changed as he would not be able to take his dog with him. He was able to bring his dog here with him. That says a lot about his character. (continued below…)
(…continued from above) Lucky was indirectly mentioned in the paper. The vet who did his stem cell therapy mentioned a 16 year old dog. That was Lucky he was talking about. It appears that someone from the class of 2006 had suggested a t-shirt with your name and 2 others who have left us as memory to the three of you. It was a suggestion and do not know if it will be selected for their reunion or not. Perhaps if it is, someone will let us know.
Your uncle saw his doctor today and the doctor believes the pancreatitis he suffered last year was triggered by medication and he may have had a gallstone or kidney stone at the same time. (do not remember which one)
About a week and a half ago I heard bine, bine (could have been dreaming) thought your dad was calling for me so answered (yes, hello). He said he did not call out. You have been in my dreams some. Two of my friends from high school have lost a parent in the past month. Of the 3 people from high school that keep in touch with, all have now lost both of their parents.
In the past 4 months there have been 7 people who have left. With their passing I think how hard it is on the families and friends still left.
James, if I could, I would trade places with you; however, that cannot be. You were so young. I know the children’s specialist we saw at Eggleston had said there was the possibility that you might never have children. I had chosen to forget that after you left and thought of grandchildren who would never be. There was no guarantee that if you had stayed, we would have had grandchildren.
I am grateful that I had you for 25 years.
mother – April 27, 2016 at 11:00 PM
It is now Thursday, April 28th, ended the above as it was about to turn midnight. It is now 182 weeks and 5 days since you left. Your dad and I went to the cemetery on Monday and placed roses from your memory garden there. Your dad misses you more than words can ever express. I do not believe the hurt he still feels will ever leave him.
I am grateful that your friends still come by and talk with us.
Jeremy had a gathering at his home a little over a week ago and some of your friends were there. He said they all remembered you and spoke of you.
You were always wanted before you were born and loved more as each day passed after your birth.
Hugs and Kisses,
mother – April 27, 2016 at 11:42 PM
Today is Thursday, February 25, 2016. It has been 173 weeks, 5 days (3 years, 17 weeks, 5 days) since you left.
3 years ago on this date, we placed your marker at the cemetery. Approximately 25 people were there to remember you.
As promised, we have done all we can for Lucky (munga). On February 3rd, he underwent stem cell therapy for his hips. They removed some of his fat cells and took the stem cells from them. They injected the stem cells into his hips. It has been 3 weeks and a day and his hips have improved. He will be 16 next week. We never expected him to outlive you. You were 12 when Charlie gave him to you. I still remember the day when he walked up from his house holding Lucky and handed him over to you.
It hurts for you to be gone. I could not save your life. Car accidents happen too frequently and more people leave every day because of them. The least I can do is take care of Lucky. I have promised him no more surgery, as this last one has been rough on him.
You are still remembered by your friends. It is a comfort to know you made an impact in your short life. I think you would be surprised at how many people still think of you and what an impact you made on their lives.
Jeremy dropped by Sunday and stayed a couple of hours. Rachel had dropped by the
previous Saturday. She and Trey are moving to Florida this weekend. Most of their belongings are already there. Trey had a promotion into the corporate side of Racetrac and has been in Florida since the 1st of the month. He flies in tomorrow and will move the remainder of their belongs, their dog, and their horse to Florida. Benito dropped by the beginning of the month. He and your dad went to the accident site and planted some bulbs. The flowers will be blue. Tiffany had posted how kind you were and considerate of others feelings. Had turned on your phone to charge due to bad weather for the radar app you have on it and that showed as a notification. One day will learn how to use facebook, maybe. Eventually will need to either use your phone or cancel it. (continued below…)
(…continued from above) Your dad has given Trey and Rachel the brass telescope we had made. It would have been yours one day.
Your uncle has improved some; however, he still is not very strong and continues to have health problems. Your aunt is feeling some strain at the moment, since she has now become your granddad’s caretaker. He goes to an adult center while she is at work.
Your dad misses you, If I could, I’d change places with you. It hurts to see how much pain your dad feels.
You were wanted before you were born and loved more each day after you were born.
hugs and kisses,
mother – February 25, 2016 at 08:02 PM
Today is Tuesday, November 10, 2015. It has been 158 weeks, 3 days (3 years, 2 weeks, 3 days) since you left.
Your Dad and I were married 31 years ago on this date. The only present we would like to have is for you to be here with us. That is not to be for now. We will have to wait for the resurrection to see you again.
You appear in my dreams and when I awaken, it is as if you were here, sometimes they feel so real. When fully awake, I realize it is just wishful thinking. There is not a day that passes that I do not think of you. If I could trade places with you I would.
Lucky will be 16 in March, hard to believe it has been that long since he came into your life. After you left he searched for you and when a light was on in your room he would go look to see if you were there. He is getting older now and his muzzle has greyed. His face is beginning to show his age.
Hugs and Kisses,
mother – November 10, 2015 at 10:39 PM
Today is Tuesday, November 3, 2015. It has been 157 weeks, 3 days; (3 years, 1 week, 3 days) since you left. Last Tuesday was 3 days, not 4 as wrote (had included day of instead of starting with next day) as the date you left us.
Today’s date marks the 3rd anniversary of your service. When had planned the time had set it for 11am believing that was the most convenient for people to attend. Should have waited until 1 or 2 pm. There were people who were coming who thought the time was later and then your friends who did not get off until 2pm.
Know that others had wanted to come. When I think of this, I know many people cared for you.
You are thought of daily. Your room remains much as you left it. Some of your Disney videos have put aside for the children of one of your friends. There is a picture of you sitting between them. It is on your phone. Need to find out how to get a copy of it.
I drove by the accident site this past week and the rose bush is doing ok. It has been planted over a year now and has survived. It should last many years, hopefully long past the time my existence ends.
Regrets are that worked too many 6 day weeks and 12 hour days when you were younger. Needed to take more fun trips for you. I am grateful that had enough vacation time that could go on field trips with you when your were in school.
Hugs and Kisses,
mother – November 03, 2015 at 10:43 PM
Today is Tuesday, October 27, 2015. This marks the 3rd anniversary of you leaving us.
It has been 156 weeks, 4 days; (2 years, 52 weeks, 4 days).
This past Thursday, the 22nd, the pain of your loss was overwhelming. Tears spring with no warning. Your life’s journey was 25 years and almost 6 days. Such a short time.
Your friends, Dad, and I gathered for a balloon release for you Sunday afternoon, October 25th. The balloons were blue and orange. The orange was your dad’s idea.
Russell flew in from Oklahoma, his health is improving. Your friends who married this year were all present, Trey and Rachel (June 13, 2015); Chris and Stacy (September 26, 2015) and Theresa and Nathan (October 3, 2015).
Jared, David, Esther, Benito and his family (he has a son born last December whose middle name is James), Keri Glass, Thomas, Daniel Glass, Alecia, Jeremy, Deann (his mother), Eric, Brent, Bryce Sparling and his family, and several others. Hector was in California on business.
Son, you have amazing friends who still think of and care for you. When I see them gather each year to remember you, my heart is warmed.
Three years ago this day became the worst day of my life. The loyalty of your friends to
you helps to ease the sadness I feel.
On October 2nd, someone you went to middle school with posted on this site for you.
You touched more people than I could ever imagine. Such a large circle of friends.
It has been a year since saw Benito and his son had not yet been born. He gave him your name for his middle name in honor of you.
Some people from your high school class have recently learned of your passing and they remember you fondly.
Lucky is slowing down more each day. Have put yoga mats on the floor to keep his footing as his paws no longer have rough pads. Know that we care for and love him.
Hugs and Kisses,
mother – October 27, 2015 at 10:51 PM
Today is Wednesday, October 21, 2015. It has been 155 weeks, 4 days; 2 years, 51 weeks, 4 days since you left us.
You would have turned 28 this morning at 4:25am. Twenty-eight years ago this was the happiest day of my life. We nearly lost you before you drew your 1st breath, you were an emergency C-section.
Your friends still think of you. This coming Sunday, October 25th, they are doing a balloon release for you at your resting place. We have asked them to join us for a meal
at Monterrey’s on Fairburn road after the balloons are released.
We received a call last week from Russell. He will be flying in from Oklahoma Sunday and will be there for the balloon release.
Chris and Stacy were married in Michigan on September 26th. Theresa and Nathan were married on October 3rd. Was not able to attend Chris and Stacy’s wedding. Was able to attend Theresa and Nathan’s.
Chris and Stacy are going to drop by later to show us their wedding pictures. Theresa and Nathan’s wedding was very nice. She made a beautiful bride. She and Nathan look like they belong together. I think you would like him.
Met Theresa’s mother and also spent a few minutes with Anica as she was also able to
attend the wedding. She and her mother flew back to Germany October 5th.
Trey and Rachel asked us to have dinner with them. We met them at Longhorn’s tonight.
Three years ago we ate there with you and Jeremy. It warms our hearts to know that your friends include us in their life and keep in touch from time to time.
Your circle of friends was larger than we ever knew. Your uncle told me has dreamed of you a couple of times in the past few weeks. Lucky is holding his own. He has problems getting up and walking. He does better outside, inside his feet slide out from under him.
Your uncle suggested artificial turf to see if that would help him walk inside. We have put down various things for him to walk on. (continued below…)
(…continued from above) James you were loved before you were born and more each day after your birth. Your grandmother (your dad’s mother) was very happy when we brought you home from the hospital. Your marker is next to hers at the cemetery.
If I could turn the clock back 3 years, I would trade places with you. Your room remains the same, as if you would walk in at any moment. Children should outlive their parents. For us that did not happen. You gave the best hugs, strong, honest, sincere hugs.
Know that you were loved and wanted before you were born and that you are still loved and missed more than words could ever express.
Hugs and Kisses,
mother – October 21, 2015 at 10:17 PM
Meant to mention spoke with Eric’s parents yesterday. He is practicing on your guitar that we let Jeremy have. His mother shared a short video she had on her phone of him practicing.
mother – October 21, 2015 at 10:23 PM
ames and i met in computer class at stewart middle…he was my very good friend…he always had jokes and made me
nicki carter – October 02, 2015 at 10:01 PM
(Sunday, August 16, 2015)
Meant to mention, drove by accident site this afternoon to check on rose bush we planted last August. It is still green and there is new growth. Last time saw was before left for Arizona and at that time found someone had snipped the roses.
Hugs and Kisses,
mother – August 16, 2015 at 09:48 PM
Today is Sunday, August 16, 2015. It has been 146 weeks, 1day; 2 years 42 weeks and 1 day since you left us.
Returned from Arizona a week and 1/2 ago. Last week your Dad and I put roses at your marker. These are the ones from the back yard. You are missed more than words can ever express.
Your uncle is doing some better, not as well as would have liked before leaving to return home. Believe he has reached the point where he will improve day by day. He has improved since returned to Arizona in June.
When returned home could see that Lucky is showing his age. He turned 15 in March. Know that he is loved and cared for.
Your Dad is still having a hard time with your loss. There are no words I can say that will ease his pain. Hopefully by being here with him he will know that he is not alone. He misses you so much.
Your granddad is at your aunt’s home for now. Both of them are doing ok. I wish you could see Mickey, he is a love bird and recognizes me whenever I stop to see your granddad.
Your uncle’s dog, Hannah, became attached to me when was in Arizona this year. Patch, Dad’s dog and Calista’s 2 dogs, Shiloh and Bostco are doing ok.
Russell called last Saturday while was running errands. Your Dad spoke with him. He may be out this way in September.
Chris and Stacy are getting married in Michigan on September 26th. Reece and Nathan are getting married on October 3rd. Your friends are beginning the next chapter in their lives.
You are missed each day, your room remains as if you will walk back in at any moment. Until we lost you, I never knew how much love could hurt. You were wanted before your life began. Know that you were and always will be loved.
Hugs and Kisses,
mother – August 16, 2015 at 09:07 PM
James was such a great person..i am so sorry
nicki carter – October 02, 2015 at 09:57 PM
Nicki, Thank you. Saw your 2nd post earlier this month. If you look at this again, I want you to know your words are appreciated more than you will know. James would have turned 28 today, October 21 2015. his mother
mother – October 21, 2015 at 09:19 PM
Today is Saturday, June 13, 2015. It has been 137 weeks, 2 years 33 weeks since you left us.
Today, Trey and Rachel were married. Your dad was one of the groomsmen and it is the only time have seen him in a tuxedo. Cory Lewallen was the best man and Thiago Meira was the other groomsman.
The wedding was small and was very nice. Your dad did well, only you were missing.
Tomorrow, will be leaving to go back to Arizona, your uncle is not doing well. Had thought would be here longer. Lucky is getting older and slowing down. We do not know how much longer he will be with us, know that we will do all we can for him.
You were loved before you were born. We did not know if you would be a boy or girl, we wanted to find out when you joined our family at your birth.
Hugs and kisses,
mother – June 13, 2015 at 10:51 PM
Today is Saturday, June 6, 2015. It has been 136 weeks, 2 years 32 weeks, since you left. So much to tell you. Most of this year have been out west and unable to write as did not have access to a computer.
Your uncle had a medical emergency on February 6th and left for Arizona to be with him and your granddad. Arrived back home on April 9th to do taxes and get the vehicles tagged.
Left on April 27th for Texas as we moved my dad from Arizona to your aunt’s in Texas.
Returned home mid-May.
When came back on April 9th drove by the crash site and the rose bush we planted for you was doing great and had lots of buds on it.
After returned in May, drove by it on May 17th and was not as lush as had been in April.
Your dad and I went back out on the 19th and he fertilized and watered it. Someone had
recently cut the flowers. Drove back by yesterday and can see new growth, the old
growth may need to be pruned back later this year. Your dad said this morning we may plant one of the rose bushes brought back with me in May from Texas near the one we
already planted for you. Also brought back a hardy hibiscus that we may plant there for you. (continued below…)
(…continued from above) On May 18th, we went to the cemetery, your dad had brought a rose from our yard to leave and cleaned around the markers. His dad’s military marker looks better than it
has since your dad and I married. He spent a lot of time cleaning it up.
The doctor’s still do not know what is wrong with your uncle and he continues to drop weight. He is not resting/sleeping well and still has intense pain. May be making a
return trip to Arizona soon.
This separation from your dad has been hard on him, as it is the longest he has been by himself since you left. He has had Lucky with him. Lucky is now 15 years and 3 months. We do not know how much longer he will be with us. Know that we will continue to take care of him.
James you are missed daily. Your room still looks as if you might walk back in any minute. It is still hard to believe you are no longer with us.
Talked with Russell when was in Arizona. He is still in Oklahoma. He came for a visit back in April to Douglasville and stopped by to see your Dad. Unfortunately he left on the 10th to go back to go back to Oklahoma and was unable to see him.
Next Saturday, Trey and Rachel will be married, your Dad is a groomsman and we went to get him fitted for a tux on May 22nd. We pick it up this coming Thursday, June 11th.
Reece is engaged, we met for lunch last Saturday. She is planning an October wedding. Chris will be getting married in September and do not know when Eric
will be married as they had moved the date out.
Many of your friends are beginning the next stages of their lives. Something I had hoped you would have one day. Someone to share your life with and start a family of your own.
Know that you were wanted before you were born and will always be loved. Your are missed more than you will ever know. You will always remain young.
Loved always, hugs and kisses,
mother – June 06, 2015 at 10:29 AM
Continuation, Today is Wednesday, December 31st, 2014. In less than 2 hours this year will end and another without you will begin. I would give all my tomorrows to have you back. Loved always and forever.
mother – December 31, 2014 at 10:33 PM
It has been 2 years, 9 weeks (113 weeks), and 4 days since you left. You are missed as much today as on the day you left.
I dreamed of snow this morning, the car lightly covered. It seemed so real and you were a fleeting image that was gone too soon. How I wish you were here.
We will be replacing the computer soon, as this one is no longer supported. I have resisted the change as I do not want to loose the e-mails concerning you. I still have
not put pen to paper for your story. Your phones are still active and eventually I will have to close the account out or use your number and close out mine.
I looked over the e-mail from when we signed you up for driver’s ed through the
sheriff’s department. It seems like only yesterday you had to sit on the
pillow to see over the steering wheel. So many memories, they hurt, but without them,
I would be lost.
Reece had a housewarming in November, she looks good and you would be proud to
see how well she is doing. We had lunch with Anica and Nick on the 11th of this month. They were here to visit with Reece and Nate. They are now back in Germany. (continued below…)
(…continued from above) I called Russel and left him a voice message earlier today. Your Aunt Calista came out
last week and we made a trip to Mississippi for her to see the marker we put down for
Mother (your grandmother). It was a good visit. She took pictures at the cemetary and of the family home that was built in the late 1800’s by my grandfather. The metal roof appears to still be in good shape; however, the house itself will one day be gone.
Trey and Rachel will be married June 13th ot 2015. They originally had planned to be married on September 5th; however that date was not available at the location they are
The journal that purchased before you left and the 2 purchased this fall, hope to begin
recording in soon. Who they will be passed to, do not know, but will have to be someone who was close to you.
The bulbs bought this fall have not yet planted. Have been under the weather and just now beginning to feel better. Your Uncle James (Buster) and Dad (your grandfather) are also not doing too well at the time. Hopefully they will begin feeling better soon.
Your Dad had laryingitist last week and has since recovered. He misses you so much.
Lucky is doing better since he started taking glucosamine as the vet suggested.
Know that you were wanted before you were born and loved more as each day passed.
We miss you and will always love and hold you close in our hearts.
Hugs and kisses,
mother – December 31, 2014 at 10:17 PM
You have been on my mind so much lately.
Your mother came to our housewarming party this past Saturday. I was so happy to have her and get her mind off things for a while. A lot of people had made it out to our new home, however, it felt incomplete. You were missing. I know, that you would have been one of the first coming over early to help us with the preparation. You had always been the helping hand, people felt too proud to ask for. You would insist. That’s what I loved so much about you. You were eager to help.
After almost everyone had left Saturday night, I took a moment and opened her housewarming gift. The first item I noticed was a pair of hand towels with penguins stitched on them. I couldn’t help but get teary eyed. I couldn’t help but just cry, because it felt as if you were there. I still feels so unreal and those, who had never had the pleasure of meeting you, will never understand how big of an impact you made on so many people’s lives. The few people, who were still at our house looked at me crazy. I’m sure they thought I was just tired from running around, making sure everyone was fed and well entertained. I looked up at them and told them about you and how great of a mother you have.
James, I hope you can read this. And if you can’t, I hope you know how much you are missed. Every day.
Theresa Rodriguez – November 10, 2014 at 09:05 AM
Today is Monday, November 3, 2014. It has been 105 weeks and 2 days since you
left us. On this date 2 years ago we said goodbye to you for now. Your service was
at 11am on the Saturday morning a week after you left.
The funeral home made a copy of the service for us and I listened to it earlier today.
I looked over the names in the registry from the visitation and service.
There were so many names of your friends, Many names were new to me when I
first read them two years ago and again today. Some of the people who came to say
goodbye we saw again.
You are missed more than you will ever know. Several of your friends and a couple
of parents spoke at the end of your service. Listening to what they expressed 2 years
ago lets me know how much you touched others and makes me miss you even more.
We were blessed to have you in our lives for 25 years, we wish it had been more.
You were wanted before you were born and loved more as each day passed.
Your Dad misses you so much. Lucky is having trouble walking and we are doing
what we can to make it easier for him. Your Dad built a mini-ramp just for him.
Hugs and kisses,
mother – November 03, 2014 at 11:58 PM
Today is the 2nd anniversary of you leaving us. Monday, October 27, 2014.
Earlier this afternoon, I drove by the site where you drew your last breath.
The peace rose is not currently in bloom; however, it is green and appears
healthy. This morning you were in my dreams. It was as if you were here.
I regret not calling you after I came home from work on the 26th; however, you
had turned 25 a few days earlier and you were with your friends. I reasoned I
would talk with you the next day.
Lucky is now on anti-inflamatory and pain medicine from the vet. In addition, he
is taking glucosomine. He will be 15 in March.
You are missed more than you could imagine, not only by us, but by your friends.
You are loved forever and always.
Hugs and kisses,
mother – October 27, 2014 at 10:25 PM
Today is Saturday, October 25, 2014, it has been 104 weeks, 2 years, since you left us, the actual anniversary date will be Monday, October 27th. You left us on a Saturday morning. We recevied a call at 6:13 and again at 6:14am.
Russell called us Wednesday, October 22nd to let us know you had been on his mind on
the 21st and he wished he could have been here on Sunday. He sounds good.
You are thought of and missed each day, more than words could ever express.
Hugs and kisses,
mother – October 25, 2014 at 09:47 PM
When reviewed what had just mentioned, reaiized did not mention the balloon release.
Blue balloons (nunyas as you called them when your were young) were released for you shortly after 5pm. When was speaking prior to the release there was a train whistle that kept sounding and had to wait for it to pass by before could speak without it blocking out my voice. Also, there were 2 bi-wings that flew overehead for several minutes and one larger plane.
We have also been placing the mums from your memory garden at the gravesite. They have come in abundance this year. Purple, white, yellow and orange.
Hugs and kisses,
mother – October 21, 2014 at 07:14 PM
Today is October 21, 2014 (Tuesday), you would have turned 27 this morning at 4:25am. It has been 103 weeks, 1 year, 51 weeks and 3 days since you left us the
morning of 10-27-2012. Today has been a day for tears. I remember this being the
happiest day of my life 27 years ago. You were in distress and they had to bring in
a surgery team for a c-section. When I reflect on the day you drew your 1st breath,
I realize how fortunate we were to have you for 25 years.
David called us on October 10th to see if we could meet at your final resting place at
the cemetary this past Sunday, October 19th at 5pm. Your Dad and I agreed this would be good day.
When we arrived there was already a small gathering of your friends. David, Esther, and Hector Donis, Trey and Rachel, Reece, Bryce Sparling and family, their son is 10 months old. Victor, Thomas, Jeremy, Chris and Stacy, Benito and (my mind went blank), Jeremy, Alecia, Daniel and his girlfriend, Keri, Jared, Jim, Brent, and several others, counted 28 people.
Someone had placed white roses by your marker. We did a balloon release shortly after
5pm. Most everyone came back to our home. We had wings and pizza. Eric was not
able to meet us at the cematary; however, he did stop by the house a little later. (continued below…)
(… continued from above) Esther told us that Russel said to tell us hello and that he wished he could be with us; however, he is in Oklahoma and not able to make a trip at this time.
Met Reece for lunch on 10-11-14 at Longhorn’s. We had a nice visit and she shared
some of the nice things you did that made me feel like you were still here. It had been almost a year since had seen her. She looks great and had a glow about her.
Then on 10-12-14, we received a call from Benito and he asked if he could come over.
The last time he called was last December. He told us that he will be a Dad in December. They are having a son and have not yet decided on a first name, they want to use James as a middle name.
We had lunch on Friday, 09-19-2014 with Jared at Hudson’s. It means a lot to us that your friends speak with us from time to time.
Jim, who you worked with at Seasons 4, told us how you took him to lunch and how you would invite him out again as a thank you. That you would like to get together with him. It is nice to know that you had friends in all age groups.
Your Aunt Calista called at 6:50pm this evening as I was typing this. She wanted to check on us to see how we are doing. We did not hang up until approx 10 minutes ago.
We took Lucky to the vet yesterday as he is having problems moving around with his back legs. The vet went ahead and gave him is annual shots as they are due the end of this month. He also gave him some pain medicine and glucosomine. Lucky is not doing much better today and we called the vet this afternoon. We have requested they
take x-rays. We will be taking Lucky back in the morning.
James you were wanted before you were born and loved more each day after you arrived. It is hard to believe you are no longer with us. Not a day goes by that I do not think of you. Always loved.
Hugs and kisses,
mother – October 21, 2014 at 07:05 PM
Tomorrow is your 27th birthday! Hard to believe you will not be here to celebrate with us. I remember you always planning your birthday weeks ahead, trying to figure out where to celebrate. Now I’m sitting here, waiting for your text to invite me. It doesn’t feel real and it doesn’t feel right. It is making me sad. We released some balloons for you yesterday, it was beautiful! I hope we will never stop celebrating your life, as you have taught us all, just how short it is. James, I miss you and I wish I would have told you more, how great of a friend you were. Just know, that I will never forget you. Even my boyfriend, who sadly never got to meet you, knows about you. When I feel sad, I will tell him about the things you, Jeremy and I did. Thank you so much, for being my friend, for being there when I needed you. I hope you know that I will forever be grateful and I cannot wait to see you again!
Theresa Rodriguez – October 20, 2014 at 03:25 PM
Today is Thursday, October 2, 2014, 2 years ago you were still with us. Hard to believe that in 25 days it will be 2 years since you left.
Trey and Rachel have returned and are next to his Mother’s home. We went to visit them yesterday. They moved back over the past weekend. Their home is very nice.
Russell called this afternoon and spoke with your Dad, (had gone to Ace Hardware and
was not home). He told your Dad his health is beginning to improve.
Jeremy came by this evening and did a little pressure washing under the front window
for us by the carport. We then went out for dinner. Your Dad enjoyed the visit.
I picked up some fall flowers to put in your memory garden and bought bulbs to plant
come early winter.
You are missed and always loved.
Hugs and kisses,
mother – October 02, 2014 at 09:32 PM
Nora Beauchamp lit a candle in memory of James Edward Marsden
Nora beauchamp – October 01, 2014 at 08:56 PM
I feel terrible today I found out about your passing. I know you have been on my mind like crazy and I was hoping to see you. I know God wanted an angel back. I remember when we last hang out we went to zaxbys and u called me weird because I wasn’t a fan of zaxbys. I miss talking about things with you. You put a smile on my face when I had a rough time. I hope I go by your final resting place. I miss you and I’m sorry it’s been years since we spoke :kissing_heart:
Nora – October 01, 2014 at 08:50 PM
Today is Sunday, September 14, 2014, 98 weeks, 1 day (1 year, 46 weeks, 1 day) since you left us.
Jennifer and Matt will be married 2 years on the 29th of this month. It was the last
wedding you attended.
Trey and Rachel drove up on the 29th of August and placed orange and blue daisies
at your marker. On Saturday, the 30th of August, your Dad and Trey planted the peace rose at the accident site.
Prior to going to the accident site, we stopped and visited with Russel for a short while,
he had come home from the hospital the day before.
He left for Oklahoma on Tuesday, the 2nd of September. He arrived safely and sounded ok on the phone.
On Saturday, August 23rd, we gathered at Gumbeaux’s for my retirement luncheon.
You were the only person missing. You always wanted me to be at home more and
now that I can, you are not here. You are missed and loved more than you will ever
know. (continued below…)
(…continued from above) Vickie made a small quilt with dad and mothers name and their wedding date between the names, next was my name, your Aunt Calista, and your Uncle James (Buster) names.
The next line had your Dad’s name, our wedding date, and my name. The next line was
your line, with your birth date, name and date you left us. The last line had all the companies I worked for from Southewestern Bell, Southern Bell, Bell South, and finally AT&T with the years of service being 36. 1972 and 1973 then 1979 through 2014.
This quilt I will treasure along with the one Betty made when you were born with the
scriptures and your date of birth.
It will soon be 2 years since you left. We do not know how long or how short our time
will be. Perhaps that is a good thing.
Lucky is slowing down. It takes him longer to move and his paws have lost there grip.
When we take him for his annual checkup next month, we will ask the vet about this.
I spoke with Jeremy earier this week and he told me Reece has moved into a home of
her own. We wish all of your friends happiness in the years ahead.
Hugs and kisses,
mother – September 14, 2014 at 07:10 PM
It is Sunday, August 17, 2014, 94 weeks, 1day (1 year, 42 weeks, 1 day) since you left us. It still seems like only yesterday.
How I wish you were here. I agreed to cataract surgery and the 1st one was done May 27th, with the 2nd one being done June 10th. The 1st one went well with an increase in my distance; however, a decrease in my upclose. The 2nd one, still have problems with and am back on the drops for it. The clarity is not like the 1st and is still out of focus. Will see the doctor for a follow-up in the morning.
You know me well and do not call in unless sick, so I used vacation time for both weeks. On the 13th of June, a package was offered. Since was still out, did not
pick it up until the 16th. James, I took a step in faith and put in for it on the 20th,
without even checking to see what the pension would be. My only regret is that you
are not here. You always wanted me to spend more time at home and less time at
We were notified July 2nd and the off payroll date was Friday, July 18th. My last work day was the 16th and did not leave until between 11:30 and midnight. Was still receiving e-mails to work that last day and stayed over to finish clearing my desk. (continued below…)
(…continued from above) The 1st 3 weeks were spent going to doctors and physical therapy. This past week
received a call from Laura, Betty’s daughter, telling me she had passed. The picture of you on the horse sitting in front of Amanda, Betty’s other daughter when you were 3 we used for your video when you left us.
We saw Trey and Rachel on July 26th, they had driven up from Florida to see Trey’s grandmother who was in the hospital. On August 6th, Trey e-mailed a picture of the engagement ring he purchased for Rachel. He proposed to her last Sunday, August 10th. They will be married next September when Rachel completes college.
The roses we ordered for you are doing well. We have one in the memory garden and have not yet decided which one to plant at the site where you took your last breath.
I saw Russell back in June. He was at Emory Hospital. He was released in July and will be moving to Oklahoma as he continues to recover. Have not spoken with him in a couple of weeks. Have left a couple of voice messages for him.
Now that I have time, will begin clearing our home. The items you have am still holding on to. We gave your friends some of your things to remember you by and some of your clothes. I am still not ready to make changes to your room.
One of the things would like to accomplish is to improve my health and visit dad without
having to worry about returning to work. Arizona is a 3 and 1/2 day drive for me and do not like to fly unless I have to. Your dad would stay here with Lucky.
Lucky still misses you. We are going to have my retirement lunch this coming Saturday at Gumbeaux’s. I know if you were here, that is one of the places you would have liked us to eat at.
James, sometimes you appear in my dreams. On those days, I want to fall back to sleep so that you are with me. I know you are asleep and will awaken at the resurrection. It hurts to know that I cannot hold you now. You gave the best hugs of anyone I know.
Your dad misses you so much. He played croquet by himself earlier today, as the 2 of
you use to play. It means a lot to him that Trey drops by when he comes up from Florida to visit his family.
You were wanted before you were born and each day that passed, we loved you more.
It is hard to believe that it will soon be 2 years since you left.
Hugs and kisses,
mother – August 17, 2014 at 04:03 PM
Monday, May 12, 2014.
It has been 80 weeks, (1 year, 28 weeks, and 2 days) since you left us. It still seems unreal. The bulbs that were planted in early winter are still coming in. Less than half
have come throgh.
We are waiting on the arrival of the peace rose we ordered. Your Dad placed the
order today with Roses of Yesterday and Today out of Watsonville, California.
You always wanted to visit California and we never did. It would have been nice
to show you where I lived as a child.
We plan to place one of the roses where you took your last breath, one will be in
your memory garden and the third will be out front where the azaela was that Joan
When I came home tonight, a deer crossed in front of me into our front yard. It
started toward Henry’s and then doubled back toward your room. It was so quick.
Yesterday, Jeremy came over and we had lunch with him. When we returned home,
Chris and his girlfriend, Stacy came over. Lucky enjoyed having your friends over
and being in your room.
You are forever missed and always loved. One day we will be reunited.
Hugs and kisses,
mother – May 12, 2014 at 10:49 PM
Saturday, April 5, 2014.
In just a few hours it will be 75 weeks since you left, (1 year, 23 weeks). We live in the new normal. A life without you in it. I walk into your room and it just doesn’t seem like you are gone.
Your Dad removed books from the top shelf of your bookcase and put them on the bottom shelf. He put some of your movies on the top shelf. That small change made me feel the loss of you even more.
They say time heals all wounds. I do not believe this. How can your loss ever be ok?
It is not ok for you to be gone. You were suppose to outlive us. Sometimes it is all your
Dad and I can do to make it through the day. We go through the motions of living. However, without you, it seems futile. As you well know, I always have had our taxes
done at least by the end of February. Here it is April 5th and they are still not done.
If only I could wake up and this all be a dream. I have been searching the scriptures
for comfort. There are versus have read before, and now I see them in a different perspective.
You were wanted before you were even born. You have always been loved and always will be. It saddens me when I hear on the news of children being mistreated and killed by their parents. How can anyone hurt a child?
Know this, you were loved before you were born and always will be. One day we will be reuinted.
Hugs and Kisses,
mother – April 05, 2014 at 12:19 AM
I am sorry for your loss. I would like to share an article with you if you have some time. All we can do is trust in God’s mercy! http://www.strangenotions.com/god-in-the-dock-tragedy-and-trilemma/
a brother in Christ – April 17, 2014 at 02:41 PM
It is actually February 23, 2014. Sunday afternoon.
You have always been loved and always will be.
It is hard to imagine that both your Dad’s family line
and my family line have ended with you.
I had always hoped that you would have your own
family one day. A wife and children who loved you.
We only wanted the best for you. Know that you have
always been and always will be loved.
Hugs and Kisses,
mother – February 23, 2014 at 04:40 PM
Sunday, February 24, 2014. It has been 69 week, a year, 17 weeks, 1 day since you left.
You are missed so much. Russell has been very ill since the 1st of January, he spent
the early hours of the beginning of this year in the emergency room. He was at Wellstar and was in intensive care. Brent messaged your Dad that they thought he might have lymphoma. However, it was not until he was transferred to Emory that they came up with a correct diagnosis of Still’s Disease. He was in intensive care at Emory for almost a week. I spoke briefly to his sister a couple of weeks ago. Last Saturday I spoke with
Russell, he had been moved to a room. Told him your Dad had contacted Brent through the x-box message link a few weeks earlier to check on him. Russell told me
he was down to under 100 pounds. He is feeling better and going to North Dakota to
his aunt’s for recovery.
When I got home last Sunday afternoon, Lucky did not look good. I thought he might have had a stroke, he wasn’t able to walk. He did know us and we spent the day with him trying to make him comfortable. He would not eat, would only drink water. We called the vet’s office and they had the number for an emergency vet. We took him there. The vet took x-rays and said he had a tumor on his spleen and needed surgery.
We opted to wait until our vet opened in the morning. The surgery was successful, just waiting for the biopsy report. He goes back for a check up on Tuesday. He will be 14 next week. We never thought he would outlive you. Know this that we will do everything we can for him. I remember when he came to live with us. Charlie Rippy handed him to you and he became a part of our family. (continued below…)
(…continued from above) Trey and Rachel drove up from Florida Friday and we had dinner with them yesterday.
He is doing well in Florida.
We have had 2 winter systems this year. With each system, I spent 2 nights at the office. Before the 2nd one hit, I bought an air mattress and kept it in the van.
James, I miss you so much, I do not know when this cloud of despair will lift. I pray at night that at the resurrection you will draw close to God, that you will feel his love and arms wrapped around you. I feel as if I failed you. I hope to see you at the resurrection and be able to hold you and tell you how much you are loved. Sometimes you appear in my dreams. Just a fleeting glimpse of you.
Your uncle came out for a short visit, 2 nights, one day in January. All of us miss you.
You left us much too soon.
Know that you were wanted before your were born and will always be loved.
Hugs and Kisses,
mother – February 23, 2014 at 04:31 PM
Today is Wednesday, January 1, 2014. It is hard to believe it has been 61 weeks 4 days since you left us. A year, 9 weeks, 4 days. Your dad still misses you greatly.
I was off today and Lucky was outside for awhile. When we let him in, he saw the light was on in your room and ran like a thundering herd of mungadadilas (yours and your dads pet name for him).
The passage of time does not make your leaving any easier. Some days it is more than I can bear. If only the hands of time could be turned back, if only I could trade places with you.
This is not to be, know that you have always been and always will be loved.
Hugs and Kisses,
mother – January 02, 2014 at 12:00 AM
It has been 57 weeks, 1 year – 5 weeks, since you left us. The longest year I can remember and in other ways the shortest.
Immediately after you left, I could not bear for the televison to be on or any other
sound. When your Dad first turned on the television set a few weeks after you
left us, I could not be in the same room.
Weeks after you left, I contacted pbs concerning the cds that were requested as part
of the donation we made January 2012 that you and your dad wanted. I regret not
contacting them earlier. They sent them to us and they are still sealed. Perhaps one
day, I’ll open and listen to them.
On November 14th, there was a remembrance service at the funeral home. Was able to take the day off, so your dad would not have to go alone. Yours was the first name
Last Thursday, November 21st, your Dad was hurting so much, he cried for you. He
misses you more than words can tell. He never thought you would leave before us.
On Sunday, the 24th, your dad came with me. The talk concerned our hope of the
resurrection. He had not told me he planned to come with me. When I got up, he
was shaving. (continued below…)
(…continued from above) Last night I went to bed early, have not been feeling well and was going to Conyers
this morning. Instead did not get up till 12 hours later. Needless to say, stayed home.
Only left the house to go to the mailbox across the street and back in. Laid down a few
hours later amd got up at 7pm.
You and I had several conversations over the years letting you know how much you were wanted even before you were born. During these conversations we would sometimes talk of God. You told me once that is all I ever talked about with you in the
car. It is only because I loved you that I wanted to know how you thought.
You were wanted more than you will ever know. Our greatest joy was finding out that a child would be joining us and we would soon become a family of 3. We had hoped that
one day you would have a family of your own and know the love of your own child. I always told you that once you had children of your own you would understand our concern and worry for you.
I am grateful you were with us for 25 years. If I had my way, you would have outlived us.
You would have had a wife who loved you and children who adored you. You would have made a great dad. You were sensitvie and cared about others.
Always know you were loved before you were born and will be as long as we live.
The love we have for you will never fade. You will always be remembered.
You have friends who remember and care for you.
Lucky had 3 growths removed from his tail area. He had stitches for 10 days and
staples for an additional 14 days. His fur is beginning to grow back. This time he
was unable to remove the cone they put on him. You should have seen him.
The test results came back and no sign of anything, only a growth.
You are missed more than you could imagine. We wanted you before your birth and
still cannot see our life without you. Always loved.
Hugs and kisses,
mother – November 30, 2013 at 10:16 PM
It has been 52 weeks 4 days since you left us. On Monday, October 21st, we were asked to meet some of your friends at your gravesite at 6:30pm. When we arrived there were already several cars parked and more pulled in behind us. Daniel, Russel,
Brent, Thomas, James Littlefield, the Sparlings, Alecia, Benito and his girlfriend, Hector, David, Esther, Keri, Victor, and several others met us there.
A balloon release was done with 26 blue balloons, nunyas as you would have said when you were younger. Some signed a small soccer ball for you. Afterwards, we went to
Fabiano’s and shared a meal with your friends. Jeremy joined us on his way home from work.
It was good to see the conversation flow among your friends; only you were missing.
They played trivia as it was trivia night. Your Dad even played.
On Sunday, October 27th, the one year anniversary of you leaving us, we opened up
the back yard and invited your friends and people you worked with over to see the memory garden we planted for you.
Daniel and his girlfriend came, Eric and Lauren, Chris and Stacy, Hector, David, and Esther, Jeremy, Jessica and their Mother, Deann, Alecia, Reece, Jared, and several others. Jim from 4 Seasons, our neighbors – Henry and Betty, Dennis and Nancy,
James and Roxie. We enjoyed the company of your friends and the memory of you. (continued below…)
(…continued from above)
They told your Dad you would have liked what has been done for you.
Some of your friends remarked as they left that they would like to gather again
next year in your memory.
The Donis family told us, their cousin, Damian wanted them to tell us he would
have liked to been able to be here; however, he is in the military and could not.
Lucky enjoyed having your friends over, some he had not seen in over a year.
He still misses you. He will be 14 in March and had his yearly checkup with the
We saw Rachel and Trey on the 22nd of October, they drove up from Florida.
Trey is now working for Cory and has his own store to manage in the Tampa area.
Rachel starts back to school in January, with the move, she sat this semester out.
Trey was surprised we had cut the cypress trees (42 of them) and the redwood down.
The stump of the redwood you camped under with your friends is the heart of your
memory garden. It is surrounded with poured sackrete and filled in with dirt and
flowers. We replaced the chain link in the back with a white fence. In the center of
the dawn redwood stump, is a marker with your name, dates and an eagle on it.
You will forever be 25 for us all. For your Dad and I, we will see all of your 25 years,
from the day you were born, until the day you left us 25 years later.
It has been a long year and I’m no closer to letting go as I was when we were
informed you had passed. You are missed and loved so much.
We received a tag notice for your car, even though we had it detagged last November.
That has been resolved and we should not receive another notice.
About 2 weeks ago we received a jury summons for you. I called yesterday to let
them know you were no longer with us and they requested that I bring your death
certificate. That was done yesterday, so we should not receive another summons
for you to perfom Jury Duty.
Your great Aunt Louise passed today. She was 88. April 16, 1925 – October 30, 2013.
She was my mother’s oldest sister with the same mother and dad.
You were wanted before you were born and have always been and always will be loved.
hugs and kisses,
mother – October 30, 2013 at 06:43 PM
It has been 51 weeks, 2 days since you left us. If you had lived you would
have turned 26 years of age 1 hour and 15 minutes ago.
Today is Monday, October 21, 2013. If we could only turn back the hands of
time to last year. You had been unwell for several days and had been taking
medication to help you feel better. However, it was not helping and in the early
hours of the 22nd, we went to the emergency room as you were in such pain.
I took the day off, since we had been up most of the night. If I had only known
that I would have you in my life a few more days, I would have taken the entire
We have a memory garden in the back yard for you and are inviting your friends
and those you worked with over on Sunday, October 27th. It is hard to believe
it will soon be a year since you left.
Benito called us Saturday morning and asked if he could come by. He told us that
Esther took him to the cemetary to show him your marker. He looked good.
Brent appears to be doing ok, we saw him Saturday for a few minutes. We ate
lunch with Benito at Gumbeaux’s
Russel told us he has also been to the cemetary and left something there, when
he went back, someone had taken what he had placed there.
Trey is driving up tomorrow from Florida and we will see him while he is here.
Your room still remains much as you left it. I am still not ready to say goodbye.
We miss you so much. Your Dad, Lucky, and I think of you every day. Lucky
still looks for you. It seems as if he know the memory garden is for you.
Last Sunday, I played a game of croquet with your Dad, using your mallet and ball.
I actually won the game. These past months, I have questioned my beliefs and
faith, something I have never done in my life. I am searching the scriptures to
reinforce my belief that we will be reunited at the resurrecton.
We saw Jarod several weeks ago. Your friends appear to be doing ok. We know
that like us, they miss you.
Chris changed his mind about moving and will be coming over Sunday. I spoke with
Matthew Saturday. He and his wife bought a home in Dublin this summer. He seems
to be doing well.
26 years ago, you were in the neo-natal intensive care unit at Parkway. You were
an emergency c-section delivery at 4:25am. I am grateful we had you in our
lives for 25 years, I wish it were more.
You were loved before you were born and have always been and always will
hugs and kisses,
mother – October 21, 2013 at 05:24 AM
It has been 44 weeks, 4 days since you left us, It has just turned midnight, morning of September 4th, Wednesday 2013. Where do I begin? you are missed more than you ever would have thought, not a day goes by that I do not miss you.
We have a memory garden in the back yard for you. We like to think you would approve and be pleased with the results. I found some pictures we took when Jeff and Melissa were married, 11 years ago. You were so young, only 14 at the time.
Their anniversary was Saturday, August 31st, 44 weeks after you left us. I told Melissa that eventually I’ll send the pictures to her and Jeff.
Jeremy came by Sunday night, 09-01-13, we saw a shooting star outside at 11:38pm
by his truck. Your dad gave him the horseshoes, your granddad Marsden had when your dad was a boy.
Your dad will be 65 tomorrow and he misses you so much. The picture your uncle took
in Mississippi at Mother’s funeral in June of 2010, your dad has placed as a screensaver on the computer last week. Looking at it, it seems as if you are here, that you can’t be gone. Lucky still misses you and it seems as if he knows the memory garden is for you.
Chris Queen helped a lot in the creation of it for you. He helped pour the concrete and
placed the plants and walk we have on it.
He is moving this coming weekend to South Carolina.
Jared came by a couple of weeks ago and spent the afternoon with us. It was good
for your dad. James, you were his whole life. We will be shipping the Marsden familly Bible to your dad’s cousin, John O’Hearn, since there is no one else to intrust it to.
Your room looks as if you are going to walk in at any moment. Lucky still sleeps
in your room.
Know this that you were loved before you were born, and more as each day passed
after your birth. Knowing how my heart misses and hurts for you, I can only wonder how God must have felt when he sent his son to give his life so that one day, we can live again in a world where death has been defeated. Until that day comes, there will remain a great emptiness that nothing will fill.
you have always been loved and always will be loved.
hugs and kisses,
mother – September 03, 2013 at 11:31 PM
Today is July 24, 2013, it has been 38 weeks and 4 days since you left us.
Each day you are in my thoughts and many nights in my dreams. Trey has
moved to Florida. Jeremy went to the movies with you dad this past weekend.
As I was looking for information your dad needs to renew his driver’s license I
came across the following, which wrote when you were 5 on May 24, 1993.
Friday was James’s last day of pre-school. We registered him for kindergarten
after his picnic on Friday.
It is hard to imagine my “little one” going off to school. Charles will continue to
take him to school and pick him up in the afternoon. That should help with the
change from a pre-school to public school environment. Sometimes, I feel
saddened by the fact that I have worked during James first few years. There
are so many things I have missed doing with him.
When the time comes when I have to let go, I hope I don’t try to hold on. He
is growing up – no longer my baby – but a little boy finding his way to adulthood.
It is his world the future holds. I wish that I could shield him from the hardships of
life, to put a protective covering over him.
I will have to be satisfied to watch him grow and find his way, and just to be
here for him.
Oh James, this was something I would have shared with you when you
had your own family one day. How I miss you. We all miss you, Lucky,
your Dad and I.
The other week, I used your dryer sheet on the towels, Lucky went into
the linen closet sniffing and it was as if he was looking for you. He remembers
the scent from the dryer sheet and associates it with you.
I look forward to the day when we can be united again. Until that time comes,
you will always be in my thoughts and prayers.
Hugs and kisses,
mother – July 24, 2013 at 10:13 AM
I have been thinking about you most of the day.
It has been 26 weeks since your service Saturday, November 3, 2012. Today is Saturday, May 4, 2013.
The funeral home had made a recording of your service and I had planned to listen to it today. However, the tears have come and gone all day.
There were a lot of your friends at your service. I had no idea you knew so many people. Please know that I am still in the process of writing to everyone who signed the registry at the funeral home or sent a card and provided a mailing address.
Your grandmother, my mother, prayed for all of us daily, each day of her life. I failed
you in that I did not pray for you daily. I would come home and be too tired. That is no
It goes against the natural order for a child to pass before the parents.
I look forward to the resurrection when I can tell you in person how much you are loved and missed by both your Dad and I. You told me that I did not need to always tell you I loved you. You were right, I needed to tell you more.
Some of your friends still keep in touch with your Dad and I. We appreciate them still checking on us when they have time. Some of your other friends we see when we are out will stop and talk with us.
Please know that you have always been loved, and always will be.
Hugs and Kisses,
mother – May 04, 2013 at 10:16 PM
It has been 26 weeks (6 months) since you left us. Today, 04-27-13, Saturday, is exactly 26 weeks from the worst day of my life. I went out to the accident sight earlier today. I had wanted to plant flowers today to bring life to the place where you took your last breath. I haven’t yet decided what to plant. Have thought of mums and azaleas.
I would like something beautiful to plant that will continue to grow without needing constant care and that will last through both winter and summer.
We are in the process of making a memory garden for you. It will be around the
tree you and your friends camped out under in the back yard. I remember the year we planted tulips and iris bulbs. If we do that, will need to plant them in the fall.
Several of your friends have stayed in contact with us. Many of them are making
big changes in their lives. They miss you. Some of your friends and their famillies are facing challenges in their health and lives. I wish there was some way for everthing to be better for them.
We never made the trip to Mississippi to check on Mother’s marker that you helped select and your input on the wording and images used on it. Vickie went with me 2 weeks ago to see it. It looks very nice. I wish you could have seen the final result.
James, not a day goes by that I do not think of you. There are no words to tell you how much you meant and still mean to me. Your dad and I feel a deep emptiness we have never experienced before.
Your room looks pretty much like you left it. I keep hoping to wake up and find you asleep in your bed, that the past 6 months have been nothing but a dream.
I would gladly exchange my life for yours. The best is all we wanted for you. For you to be happy and one day have a family of your own.
Know that you have always and always will be loved.
Hug and Kisses.
mother – April 27, 2013 at 10:28 PM
It has been 17 weeks and 2 days since you left us. Today, 02-25-13, we placed the marker at your final resting place. The weeks have been long an lonely without you.
Several of your friends wanted to be present. We chose a Monday, as most of them
are off on Monday.
Not a day has passed that I have not thought of you. There was so much I wanted to say today, yet the words did not come.
You were a good son, who cared about your family. I know how concerned you were about your dad’s healh and the care you showed me after my accident and surgery.
If only the hands of time could be turned back.
Some of your friends were unable to be here today. However, several did come.
Those who came were,Thomas, Russell, Daniel, Brent, Kerri, Esther. Jarod, Jeremy,
Chris, and Reese came too. Jim and Diane, Ken, Karen, and Jason, Roxie and James,
Betty and Henry, Nancy. Jeremy’s mother , Deann. Leah and her dad, Eric. Juanita, Helen and Ginny. Your dad and I.
25 years, not such a long time. You lived those years and made an impact on othes, both young and older. You led a good life, with malice toward none. Lucky still misses you and asks for us to help him onto your bed. He chose you when he was a puppy 13 years ago. He will be 13 next month. We never thought he would outlive you.
Know this, you have always been and always will be loved.
Hugs and kisses.
mother – February 25, 2013 at 11:02 PM
It has been 13 weeks since you left us. How much you are
missed by all of us. Your Dad and I have looked at some videos we had
of you when you were young. Lucky (munga) recognizes your picture and
cries for you.
I do not know if it would have made a difference or not; however, 1 to 2
weeks before you passed, I dreamed of an accident and woke at the
time yours occurred. It was such a horrible dream that I did not tell you
or your Dad about it. It felt so real; however, you were asleep in your
bed as you were not feeling well, so I dismissed it as a bad dream.
I feel as if I have let you down, I told you I would be there for you
no matter what. At the time of your greatest need, I was not there
Several of your friends have stopped by to see us since you left.
It has given us some comfort to see them and see how close they felt
to you. Trey has played some video games with your dad.
William and some of the people you worked with, have put up a
memorial to you with your work apron, safety glasses, and gloves
at your work station to remember you by.
David, Hector, Esther, Russell, Brent, Daniel, Keri, Benito and some
other people you know also created a rememberance for you. I do
not know all the names.
Jeremy, Eric, Chris, and Eric’s dad also made a remembrance for
you in your favorite colors of blue and orange.
Your marker should be here soon, it has a dogwood branch on the
left and a dove on the right.
Both my sister and brother have made a visit. Your uncle was
going to see you this month, instead he saw your dad and me.
Jeff and his family have driven down from Tennessee.
We do not know how long or short a time we have. All I know is
there is a great emptiness that will never be filled.
Your room is almost as you left it. It makes it seem that
you’ll walk in at any moment.
Know that you have always been and always will be loved.
Hugs and kisses.
mother – January 26, 2013 at 10:48 PM
November 10, 2012
It has been 2 weeks since you left us. Today is your dad’s and my 28th wedding anniversary. The house is so quiet without you. Hard to imagine that we took for
granted you being here. Even when you spent the night away with friends, it was
never this quiet.
I recall the year we had the baby rabbits that had a home here and how you checked on them. After they grew up and left their nest, we still saw them run across the yard.
Who would have believed that wild rabbits would live so close. You would take them
carrots and lettuce and leave it out for them.
We miss you so much. Know that you have and always will be loved. Now you are asleep until you are awakened at the resurrection. The hope of seeing you again
helps me get through the day.
Hugs and kisses.
mother – November 10, 2012 at 07:35 PM
“Hey, Jim. Let’s play croquet.”
“Hey, Jim. Let’s go chase some trains.”
“Hey, Jim. Go with a walk with us.”
“Hey, Jim. Let’s eat have lunch at Gumbeaux’s”
“Hey, Jim. Let’s . . .”
Two simple words “Hey, Jim.” I sure miss hearing James say those two little words.
James gave the most valuable and sincere gift any person can give another. He just wanted to be with you. To share his life with yours.
I miss James so much.
Please pray for Charles and Arleen.
Jim Dempsey – November 06, 2012 at 08:39 PM
This is an e-mail we received on 10-31-12.
Subject: friend’s reaction to the news of James
went to school with me. She now lives next door to Mom. James die some handiman work for her and she liked him. I told her about James. Here is what she wrote. She only knew James briefly, but he made a positive impression on her. You can share this with Charles if you like.
I read your email about James and I simply cannot believe it. What happened? So young…I know his parents are devastated. Such a nice and lovely child. Can you give me Charles’ address…I can at least send a card. All I can think is What. I’m going away now to be depressed and cry…
mother – November 06, 2012 at 09:03 AM
We received the following e-mail 10-30-12 from friends in Germany.
Arleen and Charles,
we as a family and your friends would like to extend our most heartfelt condolences and sympathy in regards to James.
We were overcome with grief and disbelieve as we heard about the crash. No parent should ever have to experience losing a child. We would like to say that while no words can replace this loss that we will be praying for you that God may help you with the healing process.
For this to happen to such a warm loving and hospitable family makes this event all so more painful for us to hear. I broke into tears here on several occasions.
We are sorry that we can not be present as you will experience what will surely be the hardest day of your life.
May God´s healing touch mend your broken heart,
Anica and Nick
mother – November 06, 2012 at 08:43 AM
We received the following e-mail from a friend in Germany on 10-29-12.
I don’t even know where to begin. Too long I’ve been thinking, wondering but nothing seems good enough, no words seem comforting. I’m not going to lie, I’m in shock and not really realizing what’s happening. James has become such a close friend of mine and knowing he’s not a part of my life anymore breaks my heart. I can’t even begin to imagine how you and Charles must feel, and it hurts. It hurts to know that there is so much pain and emptiness.
I regret to inform you that I won’t be able to attend his viewing and funeral. I’ve been trying my hardest to book a flight to Georgia but I couldn’t find anything affordable.
I will be sending out a card tomorrow. I know words won’t heal the pain, but I want you to know that I’ve been thinking about you and that I am there for you and Charles. If there is anything I can do, please don’t hesitate to let me know.
Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
mother – November 06, 2012 at 08:41 AM
We received the following e-mail on 10-28-12. EJ went to Eastside elementary school with James and the family now lives in another country.
Dear Arleen, Brenda email me and told me about James…..I am without words….. I am so sorry. James was such a smart and loveable young man.. I remember him well. I told Ivy and EJ they were shocked. and send you their prayers. Willmon also sends his love and prayers to you and Charles. Soon all sadness will be gone… We sincerely pray for Jehovah to comfort you both and give you holy spirit. And very soon James with we reunited with you in paradise… Love Julie & Will, Ivy and EJ
mother – November 06, 2012 at 08:38 AM
Yesterday when some of James friends dropped by, I remembered when he first heard the word donation. It was the year the braves won the world series. There was a commercial for a charity asking for a donation. After I had explained what that means,
he went to his room for his piggy bank. He had two, a white bear and a blue bunny. He came running back into the room with a piggy bank and shook it at his dad and me saying donation, donation. He was so cute.
mother – November 06, 2012 at 08:33 AM
Lisa Michelle Cochran lit a candle in memory of James Edward Marsden
lisa michelle cochran – November 05, 2012 at 11:33 PM
I am sorry to hear about James. May the God of all comfort be with all of you. Job once asked God, “If an able body man dies can he live again?” Job 14:15 answers, “You will call, and I myself shall answer you. For you will have a yearning for the work of your own hands.” Yes God longs to bring back to life all those in the memorial tombs.(John 5:28,29) I pray you will find hope and comfort in these scriptures.
Pauline – November 05, 2012 at 01:01 PM
Around 4am, on the morning of James’ service, I wrote the following words that were shared at the end of his service. His service began at 11:00am on Saturday, November 3rd.
I would like to take a moment to say a few words, to James’ friends, family friends, members of my congregation, and my AT&t family.
Thank you for your support, care, and the outporing of love we received this week. Without it, the week would have been much more difficult.
All of the cards, posts, calls and visits helped to sustain us through this time.
Friends offered assistance, helping us with the planning of this service. One friend gave me her time and drove me where I needed to go and ensured I ate.
One friend has helped with transportation. Another has helped to ensure my dad and brother can see and hear this service. Thank all of you who provided food for us to eat this week.
As James’ mother, I needed to put the pieces toghether. I needed to see the location, speak with those who were there, the first responders from the fire department, the state trooper who worked the scene. I needed to see his car. I spoke with the investigator with the Douglas county sheriffs department. All of these people helped provide pieces of what happened.
I am especially thankful for his friends who did the best they could to try to get James out of the car.
The outporing of love for my son showed me how many people he touched. I never knew how large his circle of friends were. This has touched my heart.
James had names for common day things that did not seen to connect. For instance, spiders were poffers, balloons – nunyas.
James was called little squirrel because of a hat that looked like the one Rocky the flying squirrel had on the cartoon Rocky and Bullwinkle.
He was called little eagel and little penguin for his love of these birds. Last he was called Bashi. All of these were our son.
He loved trains as a young child and had a model train set. He has one special engine that we had put up for him.
I spent 5 days in the hospital this summer, he was there to visit me and called me several times. (The Sunday I went to the er, he was there the entire day)
Last year when my car was totalled, he went to retrieve my belongins without being asked.
I believe in the hope of the resurrection and look forward to the day I will see James again.
Thank you for your support this past week.
mother – November 05, 2012 at 07:53 AM
I have read and reread all the words that have been sent to us to comfort us and let us know how much James touched others. I listened to what people said at his service and was deeply touched. During visitation, so many shared their feelings of James. As I look back over his life, I would like to share a few insights as to how James felt.
He always loved animals and had a great curiosity.
He was very sensitive and did not like injustice. He needed to be in an environment that was free from strife. He never liked loud voices or arguments.
When he was in kindergarten, there was a collection for the march of dimes. I sent in a donation that allowed him to receive a t-shirt. When he came home with that shirt, he was very upset. He told me some of the other children cried because their mothers did not send in money and they did not get a t-shirt.
When he was in first grade, we had been rearended. Fortunatly, only superfical damage was done and this was reported. Nothing ever came of this. However, James did not forget, and during a pta meeting when there was an officer from another county speaking, James went up to that officer to try to explain what had happened and for help.
It was at that time, I had to explain to him that life is not fair and sometimes wrongs cannot be corrected.
When we went on field trips, if something was bought for James, something was bought for every child in the group we were in. One time we went to the zoo and it started to rain. We took shelter at the McDonalds. Every child in our group got something to eat and drink as we waited out the rain. It was during these times I believe James began to form some of the values he showed later in life.
He cared about others. If we were going out to eat, he always wanted to invite someone to go with us. Through the years, we got to know several of his friends this way.
When he was in high school, a small window was broken accidentally while he was hitting tennis balls in the gym. He took full responsibility and told me when I came home from work. That window was replaced and I still have the receipt showing it was paid.
I miss my son deeply and would give all I have to hold him one last time. This is not to be for now. One day I will see him again and at that time can let him know how much he is loved and how prould I am to be his mother.
mother – November 05, 2012 at 07:22 AM
Sheila Harris lit a candle in memory of James Edward Marsden
Sheila Harris – November 03, 2012 at 10:52 AM
When I left the service today a church bell was ringing, I thought how appropriate and beautiful. Then as I travelled on down Veterans Memorial a train met me going the same direction for 2 miles or so. What a feeling I received.
Jerrie Truman – November 03, 2012 at 03:32 PM
He is a very lucky guy to have chosen you as his Mother for the time he was allowed to stay. I can only imagine how difficult this is and will be for you both. A pain that will heal only in part. I never had children, but losing my Mother allows me to somewhat identify. Just kinow that you are loved deeply.
Jerrie Truman – November 02, 2012 at 11:02 AM
James was a very special person. He was always there when he was needed, and rarely asked for anything in return. All he needed from anyone was friendship, that was good enough for him. He had many qualities about him that are hard to find in people these days and I will never forget him. Mr. and Mrs. Marsden, and the world, I am sorry for your loss.
Daniel Glass – November 02, 2012 at 10:22 AM
Arleen and Charles,
My condolences to you on the loss of your son James, my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Mary Kellogg – November 01, 2012 at 08:03 PM
Mary Kellogg lit a candle in memory of James Edward Marsden
Mary Kellogg – November 01, 2012 at 07:57 PM
I would like to offer my condolences to the Marsden family and also share a comforting scriptural promise that very soon death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore….Revelation 21:4
T. Watts – November 01, 2012 at 07:07 AM
James helped me when I was in need. He was kind, thoughtful, and I had hoped to have many years of knowing him. Fate has decreed otherwise, but I was blessed in knowing James even briefly. For you, Charles and Arleen, I wish there were something to fill the void I know this has created in your lives. Knowing your beloved son has gone to a better placed will have to do for now. You will be in my thoughts for long to come. And thank you for your lovely son who was a fine man and made such a positive impact on many who will miss him so very much.
Sallie Jordan – October 31, 2012 at 05:34 PM
Kathy Hansen lit a candle in memory of James Edward Marsden
Kathy Hansen – October 31, 2012 at 04:31 PM
I did not know your son Mr. Marsden but through you and your caring friends here on this page. I saw you at the accident sight and felt your pain. I pray for you and your wife and family that God hold you in his arms, comforting you at this difficult time
Kathy Hansen – October 31, 2012 at 04:34 PM
Dear Arleen and Charles,
Our hearts grieve with you. Your loving little boy grew up to be handsome young man, who no doubt would have continued to make you both proud.
Death was not part of God’s original plan, but he allowed Satan to challenge the first human parents. Death, no matter when it comes, leaves us feeling so sad and helpless. Remember even Jesus grieved at the death of his dear friend. So even though we know James is peacefully sleeping until time for Jehovah God through his son Christ Jesus to wake him, we can’t help but grieve.
Please take comfort in knowing that our Grand Creator has felt the loss of a son as his only begotten son died so that mankind would have a future beyond what we see now. Jesus’ resurrection was God’s promise to us that we too can see our dear loved ones again.
Our prayers for your comfort, peace and strength will contine as you struggle to cope with this great loss.
Joe and Jackie Leier
Jackie Leier – October 31, 2012 at 04:09 PM
I am so very sorry to read of your darling sons passing. I know the pain you are feeling, because I lost my only son 4 years ago in a car accident too. He was also 25.
My heart hurts with the pain I know you are going through.
There is not a lot anyone can say to you that is going to help right now.
I just wanted to take the time to let you all know that you are in my thoughts.
Barbara Williams – October 31, 2012 at 02:03 PM
Dear Barbara, I do not believe we have met. Thank you for taking the time to provide comfort by sharing with us. I know this opens up your pain due to the same way and age your son and our son were.
mother – November 02, 2012 at 07:57 AM
Dear Arleen and Charles,
We are so sorry to hear of the loss of your precious son. Our hearts are broken for you and we pray for you to have strength and comfort in your time of grief now and in the days to come.
Debra and Scott Fields
Debra Fields – October 31, 2012 at 11:31 AM
Charles and Arlene, words seem inadequate to express the sadness we feel about James’ death.. Henry has often mentioned the fun times he had with James when he was little and would come over and get Henry to teach him to whistle and the times they had learning to ride a bicycle. We are here to support you in your grieving process. With sincere sympathy. Henry and Betty Hughes
Henry and Betty Hughes – October 31, 2012 at 11:31 AM
James has been a good friend to me and my son, A fun person to be around. He felt like part of the family. He will be sorely
Michael Chafin – October 31, 2012 at 11:00 AM
Dear Charles and Arleen,
Sorry to read about James. The scriptures say at Ecclesiastes 9:11 ” … Time and unforeseen occurrence befall us all “. But it is hard when it happens to us personally and takes the life of someone we truly love. It’s encouraging to know James had a spiritual interest. This is something that will sustain you while you cope with the situation. Take comfort in knowing God wants to help you. At James 4:8 we are told ” Draw close to God and he will draw close to you.” As He sustains you take consolation in knowing their is the hope of seeing James again in a world free of sickness, pain and death. Their he will be reunited with his loved ones and reach his full potential.
Corey – October 31, 2012 at 07:03 AM
Arleen and Charles, We are so so sorry for the loss of James. I am proud to say that I knew him as little boy, like in the picture on here, all the way into adulthood. You raised a fine young man who will be missed. Thankfully we have a wonderful hope….we will see him again. That is promised from our God. John 5:28 & 29. Until that time, know that we are here for you both.
Kevin and Leah
Leah Cotton – October 30, 2012 at 11:29 PM
Charles Edward Marsden lit a candle in memory of James Edward Marsden
Charles Edward Marsden – October 30, 2012 at 10:24 PM
Thanks for everyone giving such good thoughts about our son. He was special to us for 25 years and wish was many more to come but it is not to be. I loved my son a lot and will miss him very much. For thew people who knew him you were lucky,he was loving and caring and didn’t judge people he took you as you were. Thanks everyone who wrote something. May you never know the sorrow we have now.
Charles Edward Marsden – October 30, 2012 at 10:31 PM
Charles and Arleen,
You are in my prayers. Arleen and I always were talking about our kids when they were in high school especially. James was very much loved. He truly will be missed even by those that only knew him by his mom’s love of sharing lots of stories about him. Love you much. Gayle Grooms
gayle grooms – October 30, 2012 at 05:43 PM
Charles and Arleen,
I’m so terribly sorry to hear of this very sad news. I can’t imagine what you are going through right now but please know you both are in my thoughts and prayers, and the prayers of everyone in Midway Douglasville. May Jehovah give you holy spirit, comfort and peace as we look forward to the resurrection hope. Throw your burden on Jehovah, he promised never to let the righteous one totter (Ps 55.22). Jehovah knows best what you are going through, his own beloved only-begotten Son died too and was resurrected, and so Jehovah is eager to bring back our loved ones too, very very soon (Rev 21:3, 4)
Amanda Billings – October 30, 2012 at 12:29 PM
Robert Hamill lit a candle in memory of James Edward Marsden
Robert Hamill – October 30, 2012 at 11:12 AM
Arleen my thoughts and prayers are with you and your entire family.
Ray Cannon – October 30, 2012 at 10:24 AM
Charles and Arleen, My thoughts and prayers are with ya’ll. I haven’t seen James in years but remember him as very curious with a sweet smile. Hold on to the great memories. I remember him talking about how he and his Daddy stayed up late and looked at stars.
May God’s loving arms surround you both.
Teresa and Randy Morris
Teresa Morris – October 30, 2012 at 07:03 AM
James, What can I say man i’ve know you since high school you were always there. I’d come home from work and youd already be in my house playing halo. Im gonna miss you so much you were my other brother not by blood but something way thicker. I love you and I know your kicking it in heaven. Rest in peace brother
david donis – October 29, 2012 at 01:50 PM
Arleen and Charles, you will forever be in my prayers. I had the opportunity to work with Arleen for many years and listen to the stories as James grew into the fine young man he was and will cherish those memories and laugh at the cute, little funny James only sayings. Love you much Sandi Holly Starr and
Sandi Holly Starr – October 29, 2012 at 12:22 PM
I’ve known James since he was a few hours old and last saw him just a few days before he died. His parents have been close friends of ours for decades. James grew up with our son Matt since they were in diapers, literally. They were playmates for years, and, though they developed different interests and went their separate ways, they were remained friends. I am glad James was Matt’s friend.
James’ parents, Charles and Arleen, have been close friends of ours for decades. James has been a part of our lives for his whole life. A good part. James was more than the son of long term friends. James became and remained a welcome member of our family.
As James grew into a man I was proud to have him as a friend. Like most inherently honest people James was trusting and generous. Sometimes things didn’t go his way, or he’d be taken advantage of, but James didn’t carry a grudge and never became hardened to the world. James was always ready to share what he had – most importantly his time. He had a great sense of humor, I miss his sly smile and sense of humor. James enjoyed being with others and people enjoyed being with him. James truly loved and cared for his parents, his hound dog Lucky, and the world. James had many friends who will miss him dearly, but who will also remember him fondly.
Please pray for Charles and Arleen.
Jim & Diane Dempsey – October 29, 2012 at 11:52 AM
Salina Chafin sent a virtual gift in memory of James Edward Marsden
Salina Chafin – October 29, 2012 at 11:39 AM
Aunt Salina will always remember James and Jeremy as “Best Friends Forever”
Salina Chafin – October 29, 2012 at 11:44 AM
Donna Jean Moseley lit a candle in memory of James Edward Marsden
donna jean moseley – October 29, 2012 at 11:08 AM
in my thoughts and prayers
donna jean moseley – October 29, 2012 at 11:09 AM
Thank you for keeping us in your
thoughts and prayers. This is a
most difficult time. Charles is not
handling this well. Faith and the
care from friends of ours and James
are helping us throgh this.
mother – October 30, 2012 at 05:19 AM
The world is missing an Angel. I love you James, Arleen and Charles.
Calista Moore – October 29, 2012 at 10:16 AM
James was always like a brother to me. It has been a little over nine years since I’ve known him. He was always considered a part of the family and we all loved him. I’m honored to be like a sister to him that he never had. He will be missed and in our hearts forever.
Jessica Chafin – October 28, 2012 at 07:37 PM
I did not remember how many years it was. I do remember the
first time we met. I had brought James over to see Jeremy and
met you and your Mother at that time. Thank you for being a little sister to James.
mother – October 30, 2012 at 05:42 AM
James will truly be missed. I felt like he was part of our family. He was always polite and eager to give a hug. Once, I fed him some antelope meat. He was enjoying it while he thought it was beef – the look on his face was priceless when he found out it wasn’t!
Deann Chafin – October 28, 2012 at 07:30 PM
When someone leaves, a piece of our heart goes too. I am praying for you as you miss and long for your loved one. May God bring comfort and peace as you look upon the memories of your time together with James. I remember James as polite and very respectful, I’m glad he touched my children’s lives. We will miss him!
Sonia Donis – October 28, 2012 at 10:20 PM
It appears that my first 2 attmpts to respond did not go through.
Monday morning I sent a response and there was a red x. Later sent another to ensure the 1st response was sent and
another red x. This morning, I sent a response to someone else, no red x and it posted; therefore I must believe my 1st .
two responses were lost.
Anyway for a 3rd attempt, I would like you to know that we appreciate your and Jessica’s posts. I take comfort in
knowing that you cared for him as family. I would have loved to
have seen his face when you told him he had eaten antelope.
He never told me about that. I can still remember when he
got his first car and then began to drive to school The boys
stopped riding the school bus at that time.
We appreciate you and Jessica coming over so soon after the
news of James reached you. I know he felt at home with your
family and that provides comfort to us.
mother – October 30, 2012 at 05:34 AM
Sonia Donis lit a candle in memory of James Edward Marsden
I appreciate your call Sunday night. When 1st attempted a response, was not sure how this worked and included in the
response field to Jeremy’s mother which apparently went
It is a comfort to know that James was cared for by others.
Thank you for sharing with me how you felt.
Our deepest sympathy to Charles and Arleen during this most difficult time. James was a wonderful person. Hold on to your memories. You are in our thoughts and prayers. Richard Gibbs and Richard Beard Mesquite, Texas
I have known James most of my life. He was one of the kindest men I have ever know. James you will truly be missed. See you again one day! – Kristen Leatherwood (Mezzell)
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